AIBU to want a hotel stay without the news on?

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My DM watches the news in the hotel room. I’m here to relax, not to hear Trump’s irritating voice with the BS he says. His voice would be irritating if another person had it. Plus he is a disgusting and ugly thing to look at

i don’t watch the news at home. It’s depressing.

I bloody hate it when my husband puts the tv on immediately as soon as we get to a hotel room. Not the news, just anything else in the background. When I’m away alone I never switch it on.

I won't watch the news at HOME and make my partner switch over when I enter the room! I do read news, but I also hate the sound of various politicians' voices.

She’s probably watching the news because it’s the only English language channel on TV.

Your mum is probably in the habit of watching the news daily. Can't you just put some headphones in, go and have a bath or go for a walk or for a drink in the bar until it's over? If you share a hotel room with someone, there has to be some give and take.

I'd find that massively irritating - we had to implement some boundaries at home about news/politics videos in the bedroom because I find it so stressful to listen to. It's bad enough in hotels when the news is blaring at breakfast, never mind in your room. I do agree with a PP about compromise though - I don't think you can expect your DM to stop completely so maybe agree some boundaries that mean you can be elsewhere whilst she catches up on the news?

Oh, I do sympathise. My dh is addicted to news, preferably of the depressing variety. If it’s not the TV, it’s R4, for much of the day - plus he spends ages devouring The Times every morning.
I often have to put my foot down in the car (usually my car unless it’s a very long journey) because he wants PM, or the one o’clock news, or whatever, when he’s already had hours of depressing news at home.

Just to add, it’s not that I ignore it altogether, but a quick catch up online is usually enough.

DM watches the news over Xmas and it’s the same shit.

I have not had the opportunity to check other English tv channels which are not news!

About hotels tv in general, why do they have many other channels in different languages which aren’t news? Have seen many US shows dubbed in German, French, Spanish (not in countries where these are the official languages).

I was in Croatia and jumped for joy as had Discovery, History, National Geographic another channel which was a mix of Gold and Drama

I hate the TV on in a hotel room full stop.

I can’t abide any of it - tv, radio, news or music as “background noise “, either at home or on holiday. I have radio and tv but it’s for watching or listening to, not just wittering on to itself intruding on my peace.

YANBU. But I suppose there’s no real reason for your preference to trump hers (no pun intended). If you’re going to share a hotel room, there’s probably going to be things that irritate you.

Would she watch on a tablet with headphones, or does she just like it on in the background? Can you limit it to a certain amount per day? Can you go out, even just to the hotel bar, and leave her to it?

Can you ask him to watch it on a device with volume low, rather than the telly?

My DH has to be uptodate with the news, 24/7 as it can have a significant impact on his industry/team. Even on holiday he needs to be able to respond to international crises, so I don’t begrudge him need to check in… but not on the in-room telly. He can use his phone (and ideally ear buds).

Me too. My DH does this.
I plug my headphones in and ignore.

I wondered if you were in holiday with my Dad for a minute 😂

Agree its annoying but you can use headphones or ask her to turn it off once she's heard the headlines.

Why should the OP wear headphones? If her DM is going to be allowing disruptive noise then perhaps she should have it piped into headphones.

I don't think I'd share a hotel room with someone who insisted on having the TV on all the time.

DM doesn’t have a phone or tablet

Because, whilst I don't watch the news or have the television on generally, it's not an unreasonable thing to do per se. The thing that's making it problematic is that two people who wouldn't usually share a space are doing so for a finite period of time. Neither are BU to have their preferences, but both would BU if they expected the other to accommodate them without compromise. It's just adults having respectful interpersonal relationships.

Some people are news junkies and watch/listen out of habit at the assigned times, or all the time! That's their life but I couldn't do the same. I don't watch TV full stop and get my news by alerts on the phone and will follow up anything I feel I need to on a tablet. We are all different. DM drives you mad watching the news, you drive her mad wanting her to stop watching the news!

I'd buy her an inexpensive tablet and earphones. Perhaps for a birthday or Christmas. Set it up for her if she is unfamiliar with this, then unplug the TV the minute you enter the hotel room and pretend is broken or something. Life is so much better when you can't hear the constant drone and analysis of talking heads who all say the same thing on a different day.

Bother - can you request a UK paper via the hotel? Otherwise you can only ask that he catches up on the news while you are in the shower each day?

DM does not read newspapers. You are talking €5 for one

Then you are back to asking him NOT to watch it when you are in the room, then?

I don't really see why your aversion to news means your mum shouldn't ever be allowed to watch it. It's not a crime to be interested in what's going on in the world. Not everyone wants to be clueless about world events.

I understand why it's annoying if you have a dislike of it, but if you're sharing a room with someone there needs to be some compromise.

We never touch the TV in any hotel. I would hate this!

It’s the sort of thing you just have to compromise on. I’d say it’s annoying me - can we have it on for 30 mins then switch it back off.