AIBU to feel hurt hearing my ex talk to someone else?

[ThisCoralExpert]

My amd STBXH are going through a divorce. I’m leaving because he has cheated on me in past - multiple times. We have agreed our divorce and will be thinking of selling the house etc soon. But.. it’s still hard to hear him talking to someone in the living room. Been together 15 years now kids together. I know I asked for the divorce but AIBU for feeling this way ):

Who is he talking to? Remember you left him for a reason - he will never change. I understand you are hurt tho - it’s raw. Be kind to yourself. He’s a twat.

This 100%!

A girl he’s met. It’s raw but I can’t wait to leave and start my life. Hard though ):

Poor girl!

how was the marriage over the years @ThisCoralExpert

Most days were good but every time he travels he would cheat. I ended up with severe anxiety and he now drinking a lot more ( a bottle of wine a day or half a bottle of whiskey a day) cos he didn’t want the divorce

No, it's perfectly normal. He's a bastard for talking to her in the living room when he knows you can hear.

one day at a time

Crass of him to do this in earshot but at the same time OP he is a serial cheat and so this sounds on form for somebody that has no interest in the feelings or wellbeing of others over their own gratification. You are well rid of him.

Of course these things hurt but it sounds as though he has caused you a lot of harm over the years and at some point when he is actually out the door and you've had time to heal you will look back and wonder why on earth you bothered with him for so long. Let him be someone else's problem.

100% this & given the OP just saying he didn’t want the divorce, he is 100% doing it to make OP jealous knowing she can hear.

poor girl & poor Op

A serial cheat and heavy drinker who is either spiteful or ignorant… Sounds like this divorce will serve you well.

He is really unkind to be speaking to his new love interest when you're near -sounds like he's punishing you. Stay strong, OP. You are doing such a hard thing.

Ugh, you’ll be well rid of him soon. What an insensitive prick to be doing this so soon and within earshot. He’s trying to get to you, so don’t play his stupid games. Just pity the next one he’s trying it on with while he’s still living with - and apparently still wanting to be with - his wife. Shudder.