To go on strike

[Outandabout43]

I work full time as does DH. Have a 7 year old child. DH works 6 - 3, I work 9 - 5. DH works out of the home, I work from home.

Lately DH has taken to coming home from work any laying on his bed. This has lead to me having to do the school pick up, cooking, spelling, reading, tidying up and any after school activities that need doing, as well as walking the dog. If I bring this up with DH as being unfair and that we both work and bring equal amounts to the finances, i just get told but im sat at home all day where as he is out walking all day.

AIBU to go on strike, or should I be more understanding that he does have a physical job?

You won't do it.

What does he do?
i don’t think it is unreasonable if he has a physical job that he has a rest from 3-4 ie before your DD is back from school and then he can pitch in

So you're just not going to collect your child? Don't be daft.

That said, of course he's being unreasonable. But you need to discuss it properly, not penalise your child.

He will stay in bed until DD goes to bed at 7.30, then he will move from bed to the sofa

I cannot conceive being married to a human who behaves like this. What horrid person lies there whilst their partner rushes around?? Crap partner and crap dad.

You say it is lately so what was he like before ?

My ex was like this. Came home and fell sleep on the sofa. He would then go to bed really late (like 1am) and plead exhaustion. He was in a sat down all day job and id wake him up to help with bedtimes and he'd just be vile. I however work 13 hour shifts on my feet all day or night and didn't have time for a nice little nap. He also laid in late at weekends and never got up for the kids in the night or morning. Waste of space and has been an ex for many years.

With your working hours, the obvious division is that he does school pick up and entertains DD, gives her a snack, starts dinner etc as you're still working until 5.

You don’t get to laze around for hours after work so why should he? I bet yiu do plenty in the morning before work. Plus he should want to spend 121 time with her.

That is absolutely outrageous. How does he even try to justify that with a straight face?!

Totally unacceptable.
He needs to be doing school pick up.
You do everything for you and your child - food, washing etc and leave your DH to sort everything out that relates to him!

Unacceptable!!!

Ultimatum time? I don’t know how else you can get him to do his share!

This is appalling ! When does he actually see his children ?!
what a waste of space leaving you to do everything !