To be annoyed at the number of couples looking for threesomes that keep ‘liking’ me on OLD?

[Theboredpanda]

I don’t know if it’s something about my profile on Hinge (it’s fairly normal, no ‘sexy’ pics or anything like that), but I get at least a handful every week of couples looking for threesomes on hinge. Sometimes they send really cringe, sometimes creepy intro messages (which have obviously been written by the man). I know it’s not exactly a huge deal, I don’t have to accept the ‘like’ but I still find it really annoying and intrusive. My profile says in looking for a long term relationship, and that I’m straight. I guess I just find it irritatingly presumptuous. And there’s probably a bit of judgement there too cos there’s no way in the world I’d go looking for someone online to have a threesome with if I was in a relationship. What do you think about couples looking for threesomes online?

Can you add a bit in your profile saying No threesomes?

Yuk! That's awful trawling an OLD site to find women looking for relationships and then propositioning them for threesomes. WTF is wrong with people? Go on a swinging site if that's your bag!

Yeah every time I feel like sending them an angry reply! Then I can’t be bothered or worry I’ll get kicked off the app so just leave it

It might help, but then it might also give ideas to those seeking them. They might even do a keyword search (is that a thing on OLD? I've been married since the last millennium, so I haven't used it) and it comes up. Doubtless there would be pervs who would take that as 'being coy' and 'protesting too much'.

It's outrageous that it should even be a thing that you have to proactively tell people that you aren't interested in, though. If a woman kept getting approached by disgusting men in the street asking how much she charges, it shouldn't be on her to have to wear a t-shirt saying "I am not a prostitute", should it?

Surely there must be separate websites or specific sections for people looking for things like that? Aside from all the rest, if a couple are looking for a threesome, they're obviously not single; so why on earth are they on OLD anyway?

Yeah that’s what Feeld is for

Surely you only know that they’ve liked you because you’ve liked them?
If that’s the case and they have a nice male profile to hook you in, and the. Just send you a message about a threesome I’d report them to the site for catfishing.

Yes that is inappropriate and it would piss me off too. Particularly as they are looking for the exact opposite to what you have described on your profile. I have nothing against an alternative lifestyle per say but these people are aware that there are other sites that cater to this type of things. They are just chancing their luck I guess but it feel a bit sleazy and intrusive.

I suspect they aren't looking at the profile beyond the picture.

Quite flattering really. Nobody asks me, there again I’m not really attractive.
Pity really, it’s on my bucket list though.
😉😁😁.

I doubt that’ll help. They’re not actually looking at the profile, just copying and pasting the same message and sending to everyone. It’s spam.

It’s a pita. I just ignore. Cba to report. Cheeky though.

Ha well there are other apps that cater for it I think! Feeld being one, which I think is a hookup app. I’d be wary though, they’re really not all they’re cracked up to be. I had one once, many moons ago and my partner at the time ended up running off with the other woman! Which is probably another reason why I’m so pissed off to keep being asked lol.

It's a huge thing in lesbian dating apps too, the apparently single woman likes you then asks if her male partner can also come along. It's so rude and presumptuous. I can't getvover how many couples are looking for a 3rd in completely the wrong way.

One thing I have learned - a woman seeking a relationship is no deterrent to a man (or couples) seeking sex.

I get your frustration. Maybe add something to your profile saying you are not interested in unicorn hunters.

It’s probably just male fantasists who are using a fake profile or their other half has no idea.

My ex went off with another woman without me even having the pleasure of a three some.
Bastard!