I’m asking because I have a strong dislike for the man. He’s misogynistic and chauvinistic and is always more than happy to share his racist views and make uncomfortable comments about people’s weight and appearance (despite not being blessed with beauty himself and being considerably overweight) and he’s also made several sexual comments about very young girls in my presence. He just repulses me straight and simple. Let alone the way he treated my partner growing up and the way he treats his wife, but I won’t go into that. If it werent for my son I wouldn’t have anything to do with the man.
For context, he doesn’t work. He always visits in the evening. Usually between 8pm-10pm, completely unannounced, usually because he wants something. No text, no call, he just turns up on the doorstep. After a long day at work I just want to relax so I’m often not in a great mood. Just a month ago I lost my best friend, my absolute rock of a dog that got me through some of the worst moments of my life. A week later he turns up at 9:15pm, with Easter eggs. My partner and I had planned to watch a movie and cuddle as I was having a bad day with the grief. when he arrives I tell him I’m sorry but I’m going to bed as I’ve got to get up at 5am for the gym before work tomorrow but thank you very much for the easter eggs. I literally cry myself to sleep. My partner tells me in the morning that his dad asked when I could take his dog to be groomed (he doesn’t drive and makes me arrange all his dogs grooming appointments and take her to and from which takes a good few hours out of my day).
I am just so sick of it. I genuinely want to move home so he can’t just turn up on our doorstep like that. He always comes to me to sort out things like booking holidays and things to do with his dogs, despite him knowing how heavy my mental load already is. I work 32-36 hours a week, home Ed my son and until fairly recently had 3 dogs to care for one of which had spinal issues. But he’s also had the nerve to make a FB post that is very clearly directed at me, essentially saying I’m grumpy or sad all the time but he was so happy to bump into my son at the shop.
He see’s my son often enough and even took him out the other day so it’s very obviously a dig at me. My partner and his sister have mentioned many times about how it’s rude to just turn up so late and not even message before. But he still insists on turning up late and unannounced, more often than not because he wants something.
Is my hatred for the man causing me to be unreasonable about this?