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AIBU to end a tenancy so my niece can live there?

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SunnyDaysAndCoolNights · Yesterday 14:12

We have a house that we rent out to a family with 2 children who have been in the house for about 7 years. The house is in the same city that our niece is at university in.

Just after Xmas, my niece asked us if she could live in the house for her second and third year at uni, (possibly longer) as the houses she had looked at weren’t very nice and she can’t stay in halls.

After speaking to my husband, we decided to say yes and we gave our tenants a section 21 notice in February. Our tenants were/are not happy and have been advised to stay in the house by the council. We thought that may happen which is why we served the notice in February despite my niece not needing the house until September. We were also aware of the new rules coming in soon which would make it harder to end a tenancy.

Since finding out that we have ended the tenancy for our current tenants, my brother and his wife (not nieces parents) have told us that we are ‘typical arsehole landlords’ for ‘kicking out a family’. They think our niece, also their niece is selfish for asking, that she could have found somewhere herself and that we should have put our tenants first as they have been our tenants for quite a long time and they have children. My brother and his wife rent with their children, so obviously that may play a part in their feelings on this. I feel upset they would say these things as I think it’s normal to put your own family first. My other brother and his wife who are parents of my niece are very annoyed at our other brother and his wife.

Would you have done the same as we have or would you have put the tenants first and said no to your niece? I do have sympathy for my tenants, they’re a nice family and have been good tenants, but obviously we love our niece and to us, she comes first.

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Another2Cats · Yesterday 19:52

Shinyclean · Yesterday 18:33

Landlord here. Awful thing to imo. Good tenants are hard to find. You’ve had it good for seven years and you could have had it more. Hope your upto date with renters rights , epc of C needed for 2030 and all your electrics and gas are certified legal.

I agree. I'm aware of a case where the tenants had been renting for around five years. The house had originally been let through a lettings agency who did regular six month inspections etc and kept on top of the paperwork.

The house was then sold to a different landlord who sacked the lettings agency and did everything himself.

The deposit was transferred to the new landlord but it wasn't protected. The electrical certificate was out of date as was the gas safety certificate.

I noticed that even the EPC certificate was out of date (and that lasts for ten years). Even then, it was an E rating (only just, it was just above an F), so god knows how much it would cost to get it up to the 2030 standard (it was a Victorian end terrace).

LabOwner95 · Yesterday 19:53

I've actually changed my opinion having read the OP's update. Offering them a larger and better house at no extra cost seems pretty reasonable.

LaBarucci · Yesterday 19:53

MyNameIsClementine · Yesterday 19:34

The responses on this thread came as a bit of a shock to me. Whilst I understand the family is now in a difficult situation, they have been given a fair bit of notice. For them to leave the house eventually does seem like a likely outcome regardless, given that the OP has said she always anticipated selling the house in the next few years.

This has made me reconsider renting our own home. We are living abroad for at least the next 5 years and had considered letting out our own home whilst away, with the intention of eventually returning to occupy it. We would let it with this understanding, ensuring the tenants were fully aware of our current anticipated return date. Of course, there is always the possibility of job loss, health problems, or other issues that could bring these timelines forward. It seems like many people would consider our plan to be unethical, and we may need to reconsider.

@MyNameIsClementine I am in the same position as you will be at the moment: I am working abroad, letting my property out for the duration, having made it clear beforehand to my EA and the tenant involved, that I would be back by a set date. The conditions of the tenancy were formulated with that information in mind - a set period of twelve months, rolling contract thereafter.

The EA got in touch with me recently about the new Section 8 regulations, I studied the Renters Rights bill carefully, and it is down in black and white that the landlord can perfectly well issue a Section 8 on the grounds of moving back into, or selling their property, provided four months notice is given: it would be outrageous if they couldn't.

Every renter's situation is different, and not all renters want something long--term: my own tenant and partner are happily living in my place, paying a very reasonable rent for the time being, while saving for a deposit on their own home. Unless you feel that the four months' notice required now really is not tenable, it just seems to be a question of matching the prospective tenant and their needs carefully to the property and its T&Cs.

Summercocktailsgalore · Yesterday 19:54

I guess your brother is aware that you have chosen to subsidise your niece ( as you not charging her the rent you got from your tenant) whilst he and his family are not seeing any financial support going their way. So showing favour one part of your family. Yes it is your right but they would not necessarily appreciate that,

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · Yesterday 19:54

Some people have been harsh on here, and there is some anger towards you, but you can't POSSIBLY think @SunnyDaysAndCoolNights that what you're doing is OK.

You asked 'AIBU to get rid of my perfectly good tenants after 7 years so my niece can have the house for 2 years while she's at Uni?' and almost everyone has said 'yes YABU, this is not a nice thing to do, and it's deeply unfair on the tenants.'

Yet all you have done is disagree with everyone and insist that what you're doing is fine, and then double down over and over, refusing to accept you're wrong.

I am confused as to why you have come on here and asked everyone if YABU? You clearly think you're not in the wrong.

likelysuspect · Yesterday 19:54

Another2Cats · Yesterday 19:52

I agree. I'm aware of a case where the tenants had been renting for around five years. The house had originally been let through a lettings agency who did regular six month inspections etc and kept on top of the paperwork.

The house was then sold to a different landlord who sacked the lettings agency and did everything himself.

The deposit was transferred to the new landlord but it wasn't protected. The electrical certificate was out of date as was the gas safety certificate.

I noticed that even the EPC certificate was out of date (and that lasts for ten years). Even then, it was an E rating (only just, it was just above an F), so god knows how much it would cost to get it up to the 2030 standard (it was a Victorian end terrace).

What has this got to do with this thread?

newmumlovescakr · Yesterday 19:55

I don’t usually comment on these types of posts but I’m slightly puzzled at all the flack you seem to be getting here (and also why you posted here in the first place- I think the amount of YABU would have been expected!)

However: It’s your house and therefore your business to do what you want with. Help your niece. Keep the family and don’t help your niece. It’s you that needs to be comfortable with your decision and you are not responsible for the house of either the family or your niece. You won’t be the first landlord to evict, as awful as it is. Just like chains collapse for people buying all the time. Still confused as to why you posted here but don’t think you deserve the abuse that seems to have come you way.

Abso · Yesterday 19:56

SunnyDaysAndCoolNights · Yesterday 15:23

No. I mentioned that she is autistic in my second post on the first page.

Edited

I'm autistic, I had plenty of parties and friends over when I was at uni.

You have been awful landlords and very short-sighted. I absolutely would not have done what you have done.

KeepPumping · Yesterday 19:56

FormerCautiousLurker · Yesterday 19:51

Well, FFS, why didn’t you just say so in the opening post?

What a waste of everyone’s time. If you are maintaining the monthly rent for your tenants to reflect that they are having to move at your convenience (perhaps waiving a month to cover removal costs) and working with them to see if it works for children’s school and catchment areas, this is feasible. No idea why you didn’t just state this in your opening OP rather than set this up a rage bait.

Edited

No landlord is obliged to do that though, a family sitting in a cheap rental for 7 years should have saved some money for their next potential move, and if you can be bothered it is always worthwhile keeping an eye on the local rental market and maybe making contact with other landlords (Those with large portfolios are best as they tend to know what they are doing and might have more frequent availability, avoid "accidental landlords" like the plague they tend to be clueless on various levels)

SunnyDaysAndCoolNights · Yesterday 19:56

CaptainMyCaptain · Yesterday 19:40

If @SunnyDaysAndCoolNights had mentioned the offer of the alternative house in the first place this might not have been such a long thread.

I didn’t mention it because they are having none of it and saying it isn’t an option for them.

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QuickPinkFox · Yesterday 19:56

GoBazGo · Yesterday 19:45

^This. If the landlord wants to take the property back and use it to house their ping pong table they are perfectly entitled to.

It’s their property. I agree with others, I don’t know why your brother is poking his nose in, it’s probably a sibling thing. We’re landlords and my sibling sometimes makes barbed comments.

It’s because they’re providing a commodity which is something that is a fundamental human condition for a decent life: food, water, housing.

Sure, it’s a business deal for them, and they charge money and make money out of it, fine. But - for me, and clearly others - when you’re providing a key human right then the human beings you’re dealing with become a factor. If you forget real people are involved, want to make the most money possible then you get…Grenfell etc. This is why people are so upset, because once you start treating the fundamentals of human existence purely as a financial business with no consideration of the humans involved you do not, imo, end up with a great society.

Umbrellasinthesunshine · Yesterday 19:56

Some of these replies show very heightened reactions so I think there are a few very stressed tenants commmenting on something that feels very close to home. I’ve been both a tenant that was no-fault evicted and a landlord that has used the section 21 when selling my home, so I can see both sides. It’s horrible and stressful when your house is pulled out from under you, and I think the rental market is very tough right now. However, being a landlord isn’t an unending responsibility, and people’s circumstances (and thus capacity to continue letting) change. I think you have a valid reason and it sounds like it has just brought the inevitable eviction decision forward (as you were planning on selling soon anyway). It is really a failure of governmental policy that so many landlords have recently left the market en masse, and that the rental market is now so tenuous. It is not your personal fault or responsibility! Your brother probably feels aggrieved because it highlights the fragility of his situation. Two things can be true - that the system is unfair, but that also you can choose what to do with your house that you own.

SunnyDaysAndCoolNights · Yesterday 19:57

Abso · Yesterday 19:56

I'm autistic, I had plenty of parties and friends over when I was at uni.

You have been awful landlords and very short-sighted. I absolutely would not have done what you have done.

Great. My nieces autism means she hates noise, loud music, crowds etc so that isn’t for her.

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CaptainMyCaptain · Yesterday 19:58

KeepPumping · Yesterday 19:47

So the thread has moved from - They will be in a hostel next to dangerous people because there are not enough houses! To - The SAME landlord has a spare house that they can also get for under market rent, but the house is an even bigger one than the one they are in! LOL

Surprise, surprise! Why wasn't that mentioned earlier? 🙄

likelysuspect · Yesterday 19:58

QuickPinkFox · Yesterday 19:56

It’s because they’re providing a commodity which is something that is a fundamental human condition for a decent life: food, water, housing.

Sure, it’s a business deal for them, and they charge money and make money out of it, fine. But - for me, and clearly others - when you’re providing a key human right then the human beings you’re dealing with become a factor. If you forget real people are involved, want to make the most money possible then you get…Grenfell etc. This is why people are so upset, because once you start treating the fundamentals of human existence purely as a financial business with no consideration of the humans involved you do not, imo, end up with a great society.

Have you mentioned all that to Tesco and Thames Water?

Olddust · Yesterday 19:58

Another2Cats · Yesterday 17:37

"It’s decent of you to give tenants notice."

'Decency' has got nothing to do with it - it's a legal requirement.

She has given a good amount of notice.

Lifeomars · Yesterday 19:59

What a horrible thing to do, you have good, reliable tenants who never give you cause to worry so what do you do? you use a cruel piece of legislation to get rid of them so you can help your niece. When all is said and done she can find a house share somewhere, it is part of the student experience after all. Search your conscience and try to put yourself in the place of the family you want to evict

Frenzi · Yesterday 19:59

It is your property. It is completely up to you with what you do with it.

CaptainMyCaptain · Yesterday 19:59

SunnyDaysAndCoolNights · Yesterday 19:56

I didn’t mention it because they are having none of it and saying it isn’t an option for them.

But if people had known there was an option for the the tenants their comments might have been more sympathetic.

Jaichangecentfoisdenom · Yesterday 20:00

SunnyDaysAndCoolNights · Yesterday 19:56

I didn’t mention it because they are having none of it and saying it isn’t an option for them.

They are being completely unrealistic, in that case, and your original post is unnecessary as you implied you were making them homeless. You are not. They are being ridiculous. Does the council know about the alternative you are offering?

SpryTaupeTurtle · Yesterday 20:00

UnhappyHobbit · Yesterday 18:39

Sorry to hear that. Did you get rehoused ok?

Yes I did thanks for asking. I was priority for a house and got offered a council house (my flat was worth less than 27k and I wasn't in a position to buy anything else at that point in time, one reason being even if I could have afforded to the money for the sale didn't come through after I had physically moved). There were around 800 of us in a similar position - mostly council tenants but a few owners and many more across the area as a whole.

KeepPumping · Yesterday 20:01

LabOwner95 · Yesterday 19:53

I've actually changed my opinion having read the OP's update. Offering them a larger and better house at no extra cost seems pretty reasonable.

Yes, I would question whether the OP is actually suited to running a landlord "business" though, but posters seem to have missed that update and continue to call the OP a nasty landlord etc. Not being nosey OP but can we assume you are well off or have other income from stocks or another business etc.?

AngryHerring · Yesterday 20:01

meh, OP. I hope each side of your pillow is always hot and that your sleeves slip down when you're washing your hands.

I hope your not-at-all-at-fault tenants find somewhere to live and that you and your niece have a few sleepless nights after chucking a blameless family out of their home.

likelysuspect · Yesterday 20:02

SunnyDaysAndCoolNights · Yesterday 19:57

Great. My nieces autism means she hates noise, loud music, crowds etc so that isn’t for her.

My sibling has Aspergers and absolutely would not have parties, trash the place, would love living in a house and keeping it clean and tidy, dealing with an electric cut or having to unblock a toilet wouldnt bother them a jot.

On the one hand people are painting this girl as if she is completely inept and cant spend one minute on her own without getting cuckood or overwhelmed by the oven breaking and the next minute she is living it up, trashing the place and could easily find some where else by herself or take a gap year anyway

nevernotmaybe · Yesterday 20:02

likelysuspect · Yesterday 19:58

Have you mentioned all that to Tesco and Thames Water?

Government has taken action over pricing in the past, and there are countless relevant regulations over food and retail in general.

Water companies regardless if what you think and how much it definitely needs to get better, are heavily and extensively regulated. They literally cant increase prices without permission.

Not that whataboutism has any value anyway.

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