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LL came into my garden and removed my bird feeders

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goodoldsussexbythesea · Yesterday 16:01

My landlady lives locally and often drives past my house. Early this morning, I was in my front garden, filling my bird feeders, and she pulled over and said that the advice from the RSPB is not to feed birds from feeders any more.

I told her that actually, the advice is not to feed them seeds and peanuts between May-October this year and I'm planning on following the advice so I was just using up the last of my seed now as it's not May yet.

She got really defensive and said "well, I just think it's important to follow the advice so I'd rather you didn't do it, please take the feeders down!!" which really annoyed me so I said, well it's not May yet so no, and anyway the advice is that you can feed them (small amounts of) mealworm and suet balls after May so I will be doing that, and she didn't say anything else, just drove off.

This really wound me up and I was annoyed for the rest of the day, took the kids out to a farm park and I arrived home an hour ago, and my feeders have gone out of my garden!!!

I checked my ring doorbell and she's bloody come into the garden, armed with a plastic carrier bag, removed my feeders and taken them away!!

I rang her three times back to back and she wouldn't pick up, so I whatsapped her and it immediately went to two blue ticks. I said - "Please return my bird feeders immediately, they are my property and you had no right to take them. I am following the advice but even if I was not, you still have no right to take my things."

After half an hour she replied "I am not currently allowing tenants to use bird feeders at my properties and have asked that they all be removed. I was passing so I removed yours for you, they are in safe keeping and will be returned in October"

My AIBU is not about who was in the right because I bloody well know I am, but whether or not I should call the police. I spoke to my neighbour about it and she said I shouldn't and that I should just replace them and remove the cost from the rent. She says she's obviously nuts and I shouldn't risk falling out with her

YABU - Don't call police, replace and charge her or do something else
YANBU - Call the police, report her for theft, and give them the doorbell footage.

OP posts:
Marieb19 · Yesterday 18:31

kierenthecommunity · Yesterday 16:29

Legally it’s not theft as she has said she is going to bring them back in October. For theft you have to intend to permanently deprive the owner of their property.

I’d be really peed off though as she’s really overstepped.

It is theft. I am going to take your car but I will give it back to you in six months? I'm sure the police will still describe that as theft.

RandomUsernameHere · Yesterday 18:32

She absolutely shouldn’t have taken them, but I expect the reason is to avoid attracting rats and mice.

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · Yesterday 18:33

Friendlygingercat · Yesterday 18:25

I would be furious as well as I am very territorial.

First - wait until after May 1st then she cannot issue an eviction notice unless she wants to sell or move in herself. It wil be very much harder to get a tenant out after that. The bar for anti social behaviour is rightfully very high.

Send a strongly worded letter. This is something the AIs are good at. Use co-pilot or chat-gbt. Type in what you want to get across and let if draft a letter in the tone you require and it will generate a message for you. It will also help you understand your rights.

I can see the principle of LL not wanting to risk infestation from rats but she is acting as though she is your boss. She has, in effect, confiscated your property. If you dont push back then she could contravene more of your rights. You are business partners. She is a service provider and you a customer. She is not your headmistress, your social superior or your parent. Some of these bloody landlords really do taking down a step or two.

I could not agree more. I hesitated to use the word "customer" as I thought some pedantic poster might jump on the definition of the word but in principal, it really is a service provider/customer relationship. The LL is off her head to think she has the right to insist the OP follow advice from a bird charity. I'd laugh if I didn't feel so sorry for, and angry on behalf of, the OP!

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · Yesterday 18:34

RandomUsernameHere · Yesterday 18:32

She absolutely shouldn’t have taken them, but I expect the reason is to avoid attracting rats and mice.

OP has explained multiple times, including in her OP, that the landlord gave her reasons and it was nothing to do with rodents.

RoseField1 · Yesterday 18:35

RandomUsernameHere · Yesterday 18:32

She absolutely shouldn’t have taken them, but I expect the reason is to avoid attracting rats and mice.

It really doesn't matter what her reason is. She had no right, end of discussion.

Northermcharn · Yesterday 18:37

Jc2001 · Yesterday 18:23

The 'decent professional relationship' ship sailed when the LL stole from her.

Yes probably. Doesn't change the fact the LL owns the house and will be in control of the situation. What is the point in the tenant trying to make a point for a few more days of April. It seems futile and will only make a bad situation worse. Still that is OPs choice to make.

Isobel201 · Yesterday 18:38

You can make homemade bird feeders by using a nearly empty butter tubs and fill them with seeds. Put them on an upstairs window sill and they'll see them. LL is out of order though and she cannot remove your feeders. I'd report to 101.

Northermcharn · Yesterday 18:39

Winter2020 · Yesterday 18:31

Who at the Council do you think the OP should tell (that the landlady of her private rental has taken her bird feeders) - and what is it you think the Council are going to do about it?

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😂

TheOliveWriter · Yesterday 18:39

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · Yesterday 17:43

I can't say I blame the OP for how she's feeling and responding at all.

She's 100% the victim here and has been given some quite shitty replies, insinuating that she's over reacting, she should be careful about sticking up for herself and exercising her legal rights in case the landlord illegally evicts her and she's been told her garden, which she has stated is her happy place and her pride and joy, will be "full of shit" by people who have never seen it. I also think the advice about planting a few flowers was rather patronising.

The OP has stated she's a victim of domestic abuse, who left her abusive partner and is now struggling on her own with three children. She's found a quiet, healthy hobby which she's stated improves her mental health and has helped her form a friendship with next door. It's also beneficial to wildlife and the environment. How lovely.
Then along comes some intrusive lady, who owns several properties, and throws her weight around, removing the OP's property and refusing to give it back for six months. I can't imagine how that made her feel, especially after finding the courage to leave someone who has been abusing her for we don't know how long.

I think given the circumstances, she's been quite reasonable in her responses!!

OP, you have been given some good advice here among the bullshit, and I would add that you really shouldn't have to put up with this crap. As you rightly say, you have a business contract with this woman. You pay for a service. She doesn't own you and you have every right to feed the birds. She can't just take something from you because she feels you should be following some advice.
I would do as has been suggested and write her a firm email, then follow it up by going to the council and telling them everything you have told us. It will be after 1st May by the time the council do anything anyway, so you'll have a bit more protection by then

I wish you the very best xx 🐦🕊️

100% this. OP has been treated shamefully by a landlord who is ignorant of the law relating to both landlord/tenant and theft. For those anxious about rats, there are an estimated 10.5 million of them in the UK, and they thrive in urban areas, enjoying, in particular, the detritus around fast food outlets. PS I know rats carry disease, so no need to point it out.

MummyWillow1 · Yesterday 18:39

She has essentially stolen your property and entered your property without permission.

Write to her telling her she had no right to access the property as she did not give 24 hours notice and you will be documenting the access. Note that any further occurrences will be reported to the local council housing team.

In the letter also state you expect the return of your bird feeders immediately. If they are not returned by x date this will also be reported to the local council housing team.

It starts with going in the garden and bird feeders - where does it end? Her barging in while you are having a bath? Stealing plants? Taking your TV?

I would feel very vulnerable if someone entered my property without prior agreement.

RoseField1 · Yesterday 18:41

MummyWillow1 · Yesterday 18:39

She has essentially stolen your property and entered your property without permission.

Write to her telling her she had no right to access the property as she did not give 24 hours notice and you will be documenting the access. Note that any further occurrences will be reported to the local council housing team.

In the letter also state you expect the return of your bird feeders immediately. If they are not returned by x date this will also be reported to the local council housing team.

It starts with going in the garden and bird feeders - where does it end? Her barging in while you are having a bath? Stealing plants? Taking your TV?

I would feel very vulnerable if someone entered my property without prior agreement.

She doesn't have the right to enter even with 24 hours notice.

LivingTheDreamish · Yesterday 18:42

She's batshit and definitely in the wrong, and I'm sorry that you've lost the pleasure your bird feeders brought you (I truly understand the joy of small things) but the problem is that she is your landlord and having a big fight with her is probably not worth it.

If the law sufficiently protects you (after May 1) then you could write her a nice friendly letter requesting the return of your bird feeders, confirming you agree not to hang them on the property between May and October, and asking that she comply with the terms of your tenancy agreement going forward with respect to entering the property.

Would your neighbour hang the bird feeders in her garden so you can still enjoy them?

Friendlygingercat · Yesterday 18:42

I think we have to separate out the ecological aspects from the landlord's high handed behaviour.

No one wants rat or other infestations as they are not pleasant to deal with and can frighten people and do immense harm to property. So the LL may have a point about bird feeders. However she should have asked OP to remove them in a conciliatory and polite manner.

Taking the OPs property as though she were confiscating something that belonged to a naughty child under her charge is not acceptable. I would be inclined to go and knock on her door and demand my property back. Take a (burly male) friend with you and make all the points posters here have made about overstepping her authority. Chances are she will be caught completely on one foot and hand them back.

Wait til after May 1st! We are in a completely different landscape after that and I suspect a lot of tenants who have held their peace will be pushing back.

kierenthecommunity · Yesterday 18:44

Marieb19 · Yesterday 18:31

It is theft. I am going to take your car but I will give it back to you in six months? I'm sure the police will still describe that as theft.

A car is different as there is separate legislation for taking a car without consent.

The Theft Act states there has to be an intention to permanently deprive. This is day one in police training stuff. They wouldn’t describe it as theft.

Winter2020 · Yesterday 18:44

MummyWillow1 · Yesterday 18:39

She has essentially stolen your property and entered your property without permission.

Write to her telling her she had no right to access the property as she did not give 24 hours notice and you will be documenting the access. Note that any further occurrences will be reported to the local council housing team.

In the letter also state you expect the return of your bird feeders immediately. If they are not returned by x date this will also be reported to the local council housing team.

It starts with going in the garden and bird feeders - where does it end? Her barging in while you are having a bath? Stealing plants? Taking your TV?

I would feel very vulnerable if someone entered my property without prior agreement.

If you do this let us know how it goes with the Council Housing Team. Although I expect they are a little busy with people & families that have no bed tonight.

Allisnotlost1 · Yesterday 18:44

DogWithADaisyChain · Yesterday 18:03

At no point have I said I would do anything wrong, in fact I have stated the LL shouldn’t have taken the feeders. But as you say, some LLs are rogue others and you’re silly if you think they wouldn’t and couldn’t find ways around the rules.

Edited

Actually you said in the landlord’s position you’d start the process of evicting OP. Do you think evicting a tenant who interprets advice on bird feeding differently is actually legitimate?

Metromayhem · Yesterday 18:45

Absolutely wild replies here.
Whether you agree with bird feeders or not, the landlady has NO FUCKING RIGHT WHATSOEVER to steal the OPs property! Cheeky bitch. I’d be knocking on her door op and threaten with the police if she doesn’t return them!

Winter2020 · Yesterday 18:45

kierenthecommunity · Yesterday 18:44

A car is different as there is separate legislation for taking a car without consent.

The Theft Act states there has to be an intention to permanently deprive. This is day one in police training stuff. They wouldn’t describe it as theft.

I expect the police would say it is a civil matter, but the cost of small claims court is probably more than the cost of the bird feeders.

Buzyizzy217 · Yesterday 18:45

InNewYorkNoShoes · Yesterday 16:11

I would pay the rent minus the cost of the bird feeders.

Absolutely DON’T do that. It goes on your credit file and are the birds really that important? I’m renting and also feed the birds on my fire escape. I also feed them meal worms in suet, but will stop when I’ve run out.

MrCollinsandhisboiledpotatoes · Yesterday 18:45

Northermcharn · Yesterday 18:39

😂

As already explained on this thread, councils have Private sector housing departments that help and assist tenants.
So neither of you are as funny as you think you are

IAxolotlQuestions · Yesterday 18:46

MyEasterBonnet · Yesterday 16:42

I’d tell her that if she doesn’t return them, you’ll have to report the theft.

This. She has stolen them. A vague ‘I”ll return them later” does not stop it being theft. She’s depriving you of them.

tell her to return them or else.

Chicaontour · Yesterday 18:47

Ypu are right however you will end up looking for somewhere else to.live which will be a massive pain. It sucks but bigger.picture

Thewheelsfelloffthebus · Yesterday 18:47

DogWithADaisyChain · Yesterday 17:44

You really can’t think of ways that a LL could get around the new rules?

Haha you really don’t know what they are do you?

i mean in theory landlord could serve notice based on selling the properly - but will then need to leave it empty for a year - losing thousands

MsGreying · Yesterday 18:48

tsmainsqueeze · Yesterday 16:05

I would do nothing even though you're rightfully angry .
She could make your life very difficult as your landlady.

From May 1st worst she can do is put rent up to market value.

Winter2020 · Yesterday 18:49

Metromayhem · Yesterday 18:45

Absolutely wild replies here.
Whether you agree with bird feeders or not, the landlady has NO FUCKING RIGHT WHATSOEVER to steal the OPs property! Cheeky bitch. I’d be knocking on her door op and threaten with the police if she doesn’t return them!

I wait to be corrected but I don't think one single reply has said that what the landlord did was OK or appropriate.

Some of us are just suggesting that the OP should pick her battles carefully as the landlord ultimately holds the cards and the OP is very happy in her home at a time that rentals are hard to come by.