AIBU to sell my daughter's old toy after she said get rid?

[BountyGhost]

DD (21) is just coming to the end of her university degree and will graduate in the Summer. When she leaves University next month she intends to move in with her bf rather than move back home.

In preparation for this, over Easter break I suggested to her that we had a clear out of her stuff that was still at home. Some of her childhood things have been bagged up in the attic for years and I asked what she wanted to do with those - she told me to just get rid of it. She didn't want to go through the bags etc.

After she went back to Uni I put the bags in the car to take them to the charity shop. Whilst in the car my wife (we are a SS couple) happened to spot a plush toy in one of the bags and realised it was a Jellycat and that it might be worth something. We put it on eBay and it sold for nearly £300 because it was a rare, vintage one!

I always intended to give the money from it to DD and thought it would be a nice surprise. When she came home this weekend I told her about it. At first she was confused about which toy I meant until I showed her a picture. Then she started shouting and raging. Saying that was one of her favourite childhood toys and I shouldn't have sold it.

She's now demanding that I contact the buyer and offer to buy it back. Fwiw I don't remember her ever playing with this specific toy as a child. She didn't know which one I was on about until I showed her a photo

In hindsight I should have checked with her before it was sold - but I did give her an opportunity to go through the bags at Easter and she told me to get rid. She wasn't interested. Who is being unreasonable?

Bad luck. She was asked. Ask her to sort the rest of her things to avoid futher complications.
It could have gone to the landfill or charity shop and you wouldn't be able to get it back.
No way as a buyer I would take you serious.

You are definitely not being unreasonable. Unfortunately, tough luck to your daughter. Let her contact the seller if she wants it back!

I’d give her the seller’s details and tell her that if she wants to buy it back then she can ask them herself. Although if someone is willing to pay £300 for a soft toy, then it’s either worth a lot more, or they’re very keen on keeping it for their own collection, so I wouldn’t fancy your DD’s chances unless she claims it wasn’t yours to sell and threatens to get the police involved (in which case, things are likely to escalate, so I hope you’ve got that conversation over text message).

I think I’d remind her of the conversation and tell her she should be grateful your DW spotted it so she has an unexpected windfall coming to her. You gave her the opportunity to go through the stuff, she couldn’t be bothered, so she is being absolutely ridiculous to think that you should have plucked a random toy out of a bin bag and psychically known that she wouldn’t have wanted you to sell that one.