To feel like im doing life in reverse

[Jigglywigglypuff]

I got out of a bad relationship about 2 years ago. We were together for 8 years and I was so committed to him throughout, despite him being so horrible to me. Ever since leaving, I just feel like being a complete hoe and sleeping with whoever I want to. I haven't yet but I just feel like doing it. I just want to go out partying and having fun, though at 30 I feel a bit old for that. I feel like I'm now so aversed to commitment and it's making me feel like a complete failure. People normally get their freak flab flying years out of the way in their early 20s, and settle down early 30s, and I'm just some weirdo doing the opposite.

Has anyone else ever been here? I just never want to commit to another man again. It feels like they're only good for one thing.

How do I fix this? Does it need fixing?

There's no one way to live life. Do whatever suits you 😉

There is no template for a life so don't worry about it. Some people find the one at 18 and never have their 'wild oats' phase. Some never find the right one at all.

Firstly, what they said.

Secondly, by 30, you've earned.the.right.to do whatever you want!

My marriage ended when I was 37. In my early/mid 40s I had a few fwbs/casual flings. Including one who was almost half my age.

I had no intention of settling down with anyone again. I did eventually meet someone but your life is yours. There isn't a 'right' way to do any of it.

I voted yabu not because you're being unreasonable in wanting this but because you seem to have an idea that there is a 'right' way to live. There isn't.

I was with my partner 7 years and I broke up with him at 34. I started going out and was single for 6 years. I lived the hoe life, sleeping around because I hadn’t really done that in my youth. I was on dating websites and met guys out in clubs too. The younger guys who were after me gave me a real confidence boost. I met someone a couple of years ago and after years of saying I’d never live with someone again, we are now living together 😂
so even though you think you’re done with men now, don’t write them off. Enjoy the hoe life because I sure did!!

Honey, as long as you can pay your bills and are not on the streets, your sex life is your problem