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AIBU to think this was not my mistake?

53 replies

Whodidittho · 25/04/2026 10:17

Entirely lighthearted post for a dull Saturday morning in my house:

DH and I went to the shops yesterday. He went to shop 1 - let’s say it was Tesco. I went to shop 3 - let’s call it Wilkos. Shop 2, Argos is in a little arcade between the two.

I said I’d pick something up from Argos for him, and meet him back at Tesco after I finished in Wilko.

Turns out my shopping was taking a bit longer, so I text and asked if he wanted to go to Argos, rather than wait for me, otherwise I’d still pick it up on my way to him.

He didn’t reply for ages so I headed to Argos myself, within the arcade.

He eventually replied and said he’d go to Argos but I was already almost there, so told him not to worry. Told him to stay at Tesco and I’ll get the Argos stuff meet him there.

I got all the way to Argos, to see him walking out holding a bag. I was walking INTO Argos at this point. Very important to note that I was walking into it and he was walking out HOLDING A BAG.

He said he’d not checked his text after he said he’d go instead so had just headed there. He said this while WALKING OUT OF ARGOS HOLDING A BLOODY BAG.

Did our big Tesco shop. Got back to the car.

He said “wait, where did you put the Argos stuff?”.

Me: “I didn’t go to Argos. You did?”

Him: “oh. I thought you went and picked the stuff up?”

Me: “babe I saw you walk out of Argos with a bag. I didn’t even get through the door of Argos before I saw you.

Him: “oh, no. That was some stuff I’d bought from elsewhere. Your text said you were picking it up so I didn’t get it”.

Me: “but you said you didn’t see that message! And I saw you walk out of Argos! And you saw me walk IN, as if I hadn’t been there yet.”

We had a good laugh about it and no one is annoyed with anyone, but I maintain it was a fair assumption that the person walking out of Argos, holding the bag, might be assumed to HAVE PICKED UP THE ARGOS STUFF”.

Shop names changed to protect the innocent. Does Argos even exist any more??

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DuckyDolittle · 25/04/2026 12:28

Hmm I'm not sure whose fault this is. I think we need a full enquiry. Have you kept the text messages to use as evidence?

Error404FucksNotFound · 25/04/2026 12:29

BennyHenny · 25/04/2026 12:25

You sound like you’d be fun at parties 🤣

Oh I dunno, walking into a room chanting I'm a dick, I'm a dick, I'm a really big dick could be entertaining. In my mind they're doing the Prisiadki while they chant it

Epicuriouss · 25/04/2026 12:30

Why did you even type this out 🤷‍♀️🤣

TakeALookAtTheseSwatches · 25/04/2026 12:40

I absolutely love that you made this post 😂

You are obviously in the right, who comes out of a shop, meets the other person coming in and doesn't think to mention that they haven't actually picked up the things needed from said shop 🤦

Alicorn1707 · 25/04/2026 12:44

@Whodidittho your light-hearted proviso seems to be fast vanishing.

This was entirely your mistake, you should have asked your husband if he'd picked up "his item" 😉you are de facto, actually his mother, don't you know 😆

He was most likely just flipping through the catalogue awaiting your guidance as to which store you'd visit next, possibly Primark? 😁

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 25/04/2026 12:47

His version makes no sense at all!

His reply about not seeing your reply so proceeding to Argos wouldn’t make sense if he didn’t get the things you were discussing.

asdbaybeeee · 25/04/2026 12:51

He’s wrong because logically he was walking out and you were walking in.
So given you were on your way in it’s obvious you didn’t buy the stuff because you had no opportunity to, so he should have known you hadn’t got it and he knew he hadn’t got it so he had all the information.
You on the other hand saw him walking out and it’s completely reasonable to assume that he was leaving having bought the items he intended to buy.

Hackedoffinoldage · 25/04/2026 13:56

Did you not speak to each other when going in/coming out of “Argos”? It seems like the natural conversation to have and the whole situation didn’t need to become what it has?!

JohnThomasOnAFloralBedspread · 25/04/2026 16:09

BennyHenny · 25/04/2026 12:25

You sound like you’d be fun at parties 🤣

I am actually. Most parties I go to don’t have conversations about people who don’t really understand shops though!

JohnThomasOnAFloralBedspread · 25/04/2026 16:10

maras2 · 25/04/2026 12:04

Did you mean to be so rude?

I did, thanks for checking. I don’t give a shit about her shopping and felt like she needed to know. Isn’t that what we do on MN now?

JohnThomasOnAFloralBedspread · 25/04/2026 16:13

I do try to be as thoughtful as I can.

Nice to see you on this thread! I never eee you on any others because you definitely don't post on virtually every single thread within 10 minutes of it going up.

Whodidittho · 25/04/2026 16:35

Epicuriouss · 25/04/2026 12:30

Why did you even type this out 🤷‍♀️🤣

I’m not sure! And in retrospect I feel guilty that I’ve used internet power on this. I was just mulling it over and bored!

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Whodidittho · 25/04/2026 16:37

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 25/04/2026 12:47

His version makes no sense at all!

His reply about not seeing your reply so proceeding to Argos wouldn’t make sense if he didn’t get the things you were discussing.

This ^^* this is why I posted it! It doesn’t make any sense!

But he’s such a bloomin” sweetheart that I didn’t press him on it. Better to post it here to get it off my chest instead.

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Whodidittho · 25/04/2026 16:38

Hackedoffinoldage · 25/04/2026 13:56

Did you not speak to each other when going in/coming out of “Argos”? It seems like the natural conversation to have and the whole situation didn’t need to become what it has?!

One would think! I think we were just happy to see each other and continued on with our day. We did kind of a “ah, you’re here too”
point and laughed and didn’t ask any follow up questions!

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Whodidittho · 25/04/2026 16:40

busyd4y · 25/04/2026 10:36

Argos still exists but you'd have been a long time looking for Wilkos 😂

Wouldn't it have been easier to have rung each other?

At risk of making this already riveting post, even more dramatic, I have to confess he actually DID call me, but it was just as we spotted one another in Argos so we hung up before we said anything.

There lies our fatal mistake. Sad but true, alas.

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Dozer · 25/04/2026 16:42

what did DH do in Tesco for all that time you were at Wilko, only to return with you to do the ‘big shop’?

Whodidittho · 25/04/2026 16:59

Dozer · 25/04/2026 16:42

what did DH do in Tesco for all that time you were at Wilko, only to return with you to do the ‘big shop’?

Finished his cup of tea in the cafe!

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UnZenXennial · 25/04/2026 18:31

busyd4y · 25/04/2026 10:36

Argos still exists but you'd have been a long time looking for Wilkos 😂

Wouldn't it have been easier to have rung each other?

We still have a Wilko in my city - in fact we have a Wilko, Argos (within a Sainsbury's) and a Tesco, all within a 5 minute walk, so I could picture the OP's description perfectly!

StormGazing · 25/04/2026 18:35

Sorry not read the full thread but that saying ‘assume makes and ass out of u and me’ springs to mind … you assumed he had the stuff from Argos, he assumed the same if you … heynho as long as you laughed about it … it would definitely be something my DH and I would do too 😉🤣

Error404FucksNotFound · 25/04/2026 18:48

StormGazing · 25/04/2026 18:35

Sorry not read the full thread but that saying ‘assume makes and ass out of u and me’ springs to mind … you assumed he had the stuff from Argos, he assumed the same if you … heynho as long as you laughed about it … it would definitely be something my DH and I would do too 😉🤣

Me and my husband too. Then taken the piss out of each other

Newbie8918 · Yesterday 10:49

He’s deffo having an affair with someone in Argos. LTB 😉

Whodidittho · Yesterday 14:58

Newbie8918 · Yesterday 10:49

He’s deffo having an affair with someone in Argos. LTB 😉

This is what I suspected. The only explanation is that it’s a bag of her underwear.

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Newbie8918 · Yesterday 20:54

Whodidittho · Yesterday 14:58

This is what I suspected. The only explanation is that it’s a bag of her underwear.

He better not be expecting you to wash it! Ewww

All seriousness…….yanbu…..with nobs on

newyearnoeu · Yesterday 21:10

ah this reminded me of when I was travelling with a colleague. Standard practice if we needed to refuel (we often worked in pairs within the team and covered quite a wide area so were used to driving fleet cars) was 1 person filled up at the pump and the other went in to pay to be as efficient as possible.

After finishing at the pump I went in to the service station to buy a drink, and passed my colleague coming out, and assumed she'd paid for the petrol, so I just got my drink, got into car, started to drive off when staff worker started waving at us because neither of us had paid for the petrol.

What made it worse was we were police officers, in a marked car😁

lottiegarbanzo · Today 08:08

A simple ‘is that the Argos item in your bag?’ would have prevented this.

And speaking to each other, rather than relying on assumptions about what messages have or have not been read would help.