AIBU to worry about my three-year-old confusing pronouns?

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Hi, my daughter turned three a few months ago, and I’m a bit worried about her use of pronouns. She often gets confused when talking about past events. For example, if I ask, “What did you do today?” she will answer using “you” instead of “I.” However, when she’s talking about the present—what she needs or wants—she uses pronouns correctly. She’ll say things like, “Mummy, can you please get me more apple?” or “Where has my shoe gone?” / “Where has my coat gone?” Still confusing she and he as well with she “ she uses it correctly most of the time Has anyone else experienced this?

As well as asking her about what she did today, tell her what you did today. She will then hear you saying things like "I brushed my hair this morning" or whatever random trivia you can come up with.

Seems like she's got the present tense and the past tense mixed up with when to use I and you.

Very common at a young age!

This is completely normal for her age.

Sounds like a young lady with very good speech and communication skills.

The more she hears the better she will progress towards getting these things right - it is about experience, of which she has the tiniest amount- and yet is doing brilliantly.

Very normal.

And incorrect tenses

E.g. I runned to the slide.

She's learning 😊😊

A good way to help her practise might be to play a game where each person takes turns to say 'I pat my head, you touch your toes' etc etc etc - plus at age three they LOVE bossing people about

This is incredibly common and they do tend to get it eventually.

So normal. She’s 3. Tenses are odd things, as are pronouns. Imagine you just started learning a foreign language - you’d be able to get your point across but often would be grammatically incorrect in sentence syntax / tenses etc.

My ds was a nightmare for this. He would also muddle up she and her for ages… “her is going out” was a favourite

We very gently repeat what was said with the right grammar and a little emphasis on the correct word “yes, she is going out.”

My ds also found past tense confusing, he still doesn’t get the irregular verbs right age 7. We are more deliberate about correcting him now - I ask him to try the sentence again. In fact when he stops to think he knows, so I think it’s just habit now

Interestingly I’ve noticed now his reading is getting more fluent and he is sight-reading words, he occasionally reads wrong - so in a long paragraph he might say “The man looked scary so Tommy runned away.”

Im quite impressed his brain does that. We’ve honestly hard wired bad grammar into him and I’ve no idea how!

My son had this. He is 11 now and still occasionally makes mistakes, but he now has an identification of dyslexia, I think it’s part of that.

if she’s only 3 though, I really wouldn’t worry. Does she mix other words up? My son for example used to say things like ‘ewww poo dog’ instead of ‘ewww dog pop’ which I believe also is part of his dyslexic thinking 😁

Common. No need to worry.

When DS was 3, he couldn’t speak in sentences so I think your DD sounds like she’s doing incredibly well!

https://speechandlanguage.org.uk/help-for-families/ages-and-stages/3-4-years/

This is a good website for understanding speech and language development.

You should not be worrying about this - it is normal development.

Nope 😊 her sentences are more like when we are playing “ daddy why isnt the dinosaur climbing up at the top of the pretend mountain ?