AIBU to find family weekends harder when DH is at home?

[followtheswallow]

I feel really horrible writing this. I would say I broadly have a good relationship with DH; I do love him but I find weekends and holidays with him and our children (5 and nearly 3) really difficult. The children’s behaviour seems more challenging and while everything runs like clockwork when it’s just me it seems chaotic and difficult with DH in the mix!

Is this just me? Last weekend he was helping a friend move house and it was so much calmer than normal!

Not much to go on here. Do you know why this is happening?

Not just you. Mine bends my ear with every thought that pops in his head. He is a strong character who will give you his opinions. He also has a "jokey" side, sometimes at my expense. I have lost it with him countless times. He talks for England.
Perhaps we should separate- often I am 50-50 on that. We get along in other ways. One DC teen.

I don’t really! Maybe it’s because when it’s just me I know exactly what needs to be done and the children can’t play one off against the other?

@Nautiesdese i sympathise, DH isn’t as bothered by noise as me so the tv will be blaring, a toy going off and ds will be saying DADDY … DADDY … DADDY until I snap and say ANSWER HIM DH!

You both hang back expecting the other one to do things
and kids get 2 set of instructions
that’ll be the jist of it