Deliberately running over frogs with a lawnmower

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When I was with my ex he saw no issue if there was a frog/frogs on the lawn he would deliberately run it over with the lawn mower with the kids watching. He would laugh while doing it. The first time he did it I saw the frog on the lawn and I thought it would be nice to show the kids, teach them about frogs maybe take it to a local park/lake. DH hacked it to bits! 😭 His excuse was that he had always seen his grandfather do this and it was no big deal. MIL got the kids involved in pouring boiling water over ants too. So any attempts to foster empathy for living things was over ridden.

Kids are older now but he still does this. It seems unnecessarily cruel to me and teaches the children a lack of empathy for living things.

AIBU in thinking this is not normal especially in front of children? It was part of a wider pattern of problematic behaviour. No frog is safe! 🐸

Absolutely vile behaviour, if it was meant I honestly would have left him the minute I seen it, it would absolutely boil my blood and there is no way I could be with someone like that (thankful you have left him), he is quite clearly a disgusting human.
In terms of teaching empathy, I find with my DC reading stories where creatures have personalities and lives helps, when you see something ie a snail talk let them choose a name, give them a story ie 'this is Fred out for a wander but heading back to his family now'...im taking a bit of a guess of your DCs age....on another note your ex MIL is an absolute psycho also

I would have called the police or RSPCA on his serial killer ass

Probably from hanging around with that twat of a partner and it's rubbed off on op now 😞

He’s a psychopath.

How can you stay with him? He has no empathy

this is absolutely hideous. I’d report him to the police for cruelty.

And I’d leave him.

If the father of my kids did that, he'd never see them unsupervised ever again. What a psycho…thank god he’s your ex.
I think I’d report him for animal cruelty if i could prove it.

What do you mean how can she stay with him? He's an ex. It's in the first sentence of the OP.

Is your ex Ted Bundy? I'd be reiterating at every opportunity to the children that their dad is deeply disturbed and that animal abuse is vile.
I'd even go as far as telling their school and looking into some therapy to unpick any thoughts and habits their wrongen dad has passed down

How can you be intimate with a creature like that? Genuine question.

Yeah, ok, I should have said ‘how could you have stayed with him?’

OP, glad he’s an ex but he’s been a horrendous example to your poor dc.

I d say he's a little bit sick in the head.
Grim. 😞

I hope it fucked up his lawnmower.

Karma will probably have him run over by a combine whilst out on a country walk.

If anything you're under-reacting. That behaviour is utterly psychotic.

It’s really odd not just for the cruelty.

Surely it makes a complete mess of the lawn mower blades/ mechanics?! Surely he doesn’t that frequently happen across frogs to be at it all the time?!

although I do think people can be brought up with something and not think properly about it. I was brought up to kill spiders and flies and I was an adult before I realised many people don’t do this (neither do I anymore)

Sick bastard. Those who are cruel to animals end up escalating to people. I hope your children do NOT end up like him.

Appalling. Try to ensure your children do not follow suit.
We share the world with all sorts of creatures.
Utterly appalling.
And for his information, no, it is not normal. Not anything anyone I know has ever done. Abnormal yes. Normal, no.

Repulsive.

He's disgusting. Personally, I can't imagine going beyond the first date with someone like that because I doubt he's lovely otherwise. Also I'm concerned that you said your children have a lack of empathy for living things as well. We love the various wildlife in our garden and once my teen daughter cried because she stepped on a snail in the dark by mistake. I did think that was a bit over the top but better than delighting in it.

What a horrible, uncaring bastard.

Shame he doesn’t run over the cable
cruel git 😡

How I wish i hadn’t read this. I dread to think what he does to other people or considers doing. Worst thing I’ve read for a long time , absolutely disgusting behaviour.

My ndn's ds did hideous things to snails.. It was of no shock he was in jail for violent crimes before he was 16...in and out as an adult..

I am absolutely terrified of frogs, so to learn there are a few less in the world is a comfort.

That’s horrific

Awful. I dug a pond in my garden last year just to hopefully attract frogs and newts. We've had them before just in a bucket of rain water.

That's evil!
As a kid it was always my job to spot check the lawn for frogs before it was mowed. Any that I found we're put in a lidded bucket and taken back to our next door neighbours pond.
The thought of him deliberately mowing them to bits makes me so angry and sad. What a bastard.