To pause location tracking when he is with me?

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Morning - I am starting to come out the other side of a hard divorce with a controlling man. I had a long running thread on here for a while about his behaviour.

Anyway - he currently has life 360 set up on my son's phone. Is it reasonable of me to pause this tracking when he is with me for the whole weekend? I know he will hate it and it will create an issue but it makes me uncomfortable that he will know where we are constantly.

I'm obviously happy for him to have it when my son is in his care.

Just after other opinions. Thanks

YANBU not to want to share locations with your controlling ex.

To address one point though, the location tracking in Family Link absolutely can be turned off. There's a toggle switch for "See your child's location" in the parent's app under Controls > Location settings.

I suppose the difference is that it can (I think) only be turned off from a device signed into a parent account, and not from your son's phone. Your ex could be added as a parent and then he'd

Is your ex already set up as a parent on Family Link? I assume he must be as otherwise wouldn't your approval have been needed to install Life 360? If so, he'll also be able to turn this setting off, but also turn it on again when your son is with you, so this may not solve the problem.

It's all a bit tricky really.

Everyone should switch off all tracking on phones. There is no need for it.

YANBU but you need to find a way to make it so you cannot track him when he is at his dad’s too.

You are right. I have never tracked mine and no one has tracked me. people on here even track their kids at uni in their 20s now even when they have moved out it's ridiculous.

We have tracking set up but it’s only there in case dd loses her phone, which she has been known to do. That’s the only time we use it.

Not the easiest thing with an unreasonable Ex, but i think you need some sort if agreement that Tracking is turned on in certain scenarios (like out with friends) instead of being a Default option.

How the fuck has your ex got tracking on a phone you pay for?

Absolutely turn it off! And do him the same courtesy by turning it off when D's is with his dad.

It's the child's phone. It's fair for the dad to want tracking on when the child is in his care. He doesn't need it when he's not, and OP should also turn it off as you say but it's not unreasonable per se.

What's the issue with leaving the phone at home?
Also, agree with others that nobody needs to be tracked at all but whatever...

Turn it off permanently. Your ex is not tracking your son he is tracking YOU.

I track my kids and won't stop. No they aren't animals - but they are my absolute world and god forbid they went out and I didn't know where they were!

It's just peace of mind in todays world we live in! My kids also have absolutely no problem with me doing this and often check where I am if I'm not home!

Install a GPS spoofing app and let him think you've gone to Australia for the weekend!

Honestly if I were king of the world I'd this location tracking bullshit immediately.

You're absolutely not unreasonable to switch it off. Your son is with you, in your care, and your ex has no business monitoring him or you in any way.

He can pay for a phone for DS when he is with his dad then, if he's with his dad then why does he need to be tracking him?

It's when he's with his mum that he's tracking DS, ergo tracking mum, who has been a victim of DA and should not have her whereabouts known by an abusive ex.

Note - I'm not a fan of tracking but understand why - they are still kids at 11 really so get why parents might want to make sure they're coming straight home from school etc. Might be a good time for a lesson on trust and responsibility maybe?

Why should DS have to leave his actual phone at home when he goes to his dad's? No, this is just going to negatively impact the child for the sake of being petty. Make an abusive man buy a separate phone for the child during his time and you'll end up with the phone being blocked to mum or something unnecessarily controlling and petty. It would be starting up trouble for everyone.

It’s very normal to have tracking on in case a phone gets lost or stolen.