Am I unreasonable to still attend an expensive event after income dropped?

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Last year I bought a ticket for an expensive event taking place next month, my partner wasn’t very happy as it was effected things we could do together.
Fast forward to now and my income has drastically dropped and my partner is paying some of our shared costs and I will pay them back.
They don’t think I should go to this event but if I don’t then the money spent on the ticket is wasted (non transferrable) and my friend will be disappointed although admittedly not reliant on me going.
I think it’s ok to go as long as I keep to the strict budget although some costs like fuel are unavoidable

Is there much more additional costs in attending?

Sorry also what kind of event, is it a long one like a festival?

Yes what are the additional potential costs?

But sounds like your partner wants an I Told You So moment.

How much is your strict budget? Will you realistically be able to refund your partner - ie you've got a new job now?

2 day festival style event - - if I don’t drink then maybe £100 budget

It’ll probably take me months to pay them back

So is your partner willing to lend you the money for the event?

More that I’d use my money but they’d be paying towards things that I would normally have shared the cost of

Then I think YABU.

You already owe them, you can’t expect them to continue to pay more so you can go to this event. If you have £100 to spend on the event then you should be putting that towards your costs or debt repayments.

So are they up for that? Either way it’s someone else funding your event

I am leaning towards agreeing with your partner. Your circumstances have changed. It's not as simple as saying the cost of the ticket would be wasted if you didn't go because the alternative is spending more money at the event. That seems unfair considering you're expecting him to then contribute more to everything else in order for you attend the event.

It sounds like you have separate finances(?) in which case you need to view it as "if I attend then I can't afford my bills" rather than "I can spend this extra money because my partner will pick up the slack."