To ask you what I want for my 15th anniversary?

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DH and I have just realised it’s our 15th anniversary next week. He really struggles with gifts, and I said I’d come up with a few ideas. Help!! I’m 35 (if that matters). Struggling to think of anything!

Er, a kiss and a morning cup of tea for the rest of your life.

You clearly don’t need ‘stuff’

I’m not very materialistic… that’s more the issue. I wear the same jewellery every day, for instance. I have a pair of £30 hair straighteners that do me fine and I pick up most of my clothes in the charity shop. DH wants to treat me, but I just have zero ideas.

A weekend away seems the obvious choice

Crystal is the traditional gift for 15th wedding anniversary

Weekend away is off the table, due to childcare issues. Could possibly get away for a spa day though…

A dirty weekend away would be my choice. It’s also our 15th wedding anniversary this year and this is always my first choice (helps that DH gets some good hotel discounts).

Sorry, crossed posts. In that case, just an indulgent day out - leisurely lunch, mooch about town shag etc, while the children are at school.

Honestly if he finds gifts tricky and you don’t really want anything, why not ditch the gifts? Getting something for the sake of it seems daft.

You could ask for an IOU and then use it later when an idea occurs to you?

DH and I don’t really do gifts as like you, there isn’t much we want - but every few years there will be something expensive we want (artwork, holiday etc) and we justify that as being “the last 5 years of Christmas presents”, maybe you could do this?

Have a nice meal out, somewhere swanky.

If you’re looking to avoid items look for days out linked to the anniversary theme. I noted that you can do days.
depending on where you are in the UK- Crystal maze experience. I think London and Manchester.
Painshill is a garden with follies and a crystal grotto. Family picnic and a nice day out in the sun. Surrey area

A nice crystal chandelier for your entrance hall.

Kids can attend weekends away!

A plant and pot for the garden.
Maybe a magnolia or acer?

Why would you want a present for any anniversary? That seems extremely strange and I definitely don't know what difference the fact its 15 years makes 🤨

It is really not that strange to exchange gifts on an anniversary and you know it.

Thank you all. Still unsure. He seems unusually keen to buy me something this year.

How about one of those Oura rings?

My first choice of gift is always some sort of experience. Most often a show or gig.

Are you giving him something? DH andvI usually go away on our anniversary.

If I had to have a present I love beautiful flowers .

Professional portrait done of the two of you would be nice.
If neither of you have ideas for each other just don't bother with gifts. Have a good dinner out someplace, maybe take in a show or concert?

Well, we can't really decide or know what do you want for the anniversary better than you, can we. I'd suggest thinking of something you possibly want but wouldn't buy yourself, like maybe pretty jewellery or a set of books by your favorite author, maybe tickets to a show you'd enjoy (could be something you would attend together as well), etc. Could be items related to a famous person you like (a book on their life, a signed item if you collect things like that, etc). Something based on your hobbies and interests, i.e. maybe you'd enjoy a dance or art class session. A spa day or a gift card to a nail salon if you visit them.

What are you going to get him? If you decide on a joint experience rather than gift exchanging, you can go to a show or a gig together, maybe an art class if you're both into it and just do smaller additions for one another. You can make a wedding anniversary video (here are some ideas for that but basically you'll need all the photos you have of you two together) and he can cook something you like or get you pretty flowers or something like that.