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AIBU to feel hurt about not being told about her wedding?

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YingYangMan · 22/04/2026 20:43

I have been friends with this person my whole life - quite literally as our mum’s met when they were in hospital having us! We grew up from toddlers, kids having sleepovers, teens and stayed friends all the way until she moved away for work in her early 20s. We are what I would describe as family without being related. Our mums to this day, are best friends.

Her Mum was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer which is obviously devastating and difficult so I understand why she might have rushed the wedding - and why I won’t broach the subject of my invite with her. But I didn’t so much as get any form of communication that she was due to get married. If her mum hadn’t told my mum, the first I would’ve known of it was seeing the photos on social media. It was apparently a small affair but in the photos I can see her college friends and others who are not exactly “close family” It’s not even the not being invited, it’s the just not even being told. My mum is a bit upset too as she is like an auntie to her.

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Toomanyclothesinthecloset · 22/04/2026 20:47

You are not being unreasonable to feel upset, but I think that if her mum is unwell you have to be kind. She may have had to organize things very quickly, they must both be devastated with that diagnosis. Just try and be there for her if she reaches out.

LifeIsAMeatball · 22/04/2026 21:40

I wonder if part of it was as much for her mum as well as the marriage. Would having less connected friends have made her feel more resilient and better able to get through the day in a happy way?

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