To hate having kids living on our road

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I used to love it when Dc was younger, playing between the kids was a lot more controlled, was only now and again. It provided play mates for them without having to arrange or go anywhere
Now, I hate it! Every night and weekend, one particular child calling to my Dc wanting to play, cue big arguments if I say no, feel like I can’t relax as the minute we get home, this one particular child is there, I either barely get to see my Dc or a child is here or I say no as it’s too often and this child is asking to play.
Dreading the summer holidays!

Does anyone else have this?

Felt so stressed yesterday that I told Dh I wanted to move house!

Surely it's not that difficult. Say no and mean it, don't answer the door. They are presumably only coming over because it's always been acceptable for them to do so?

Can you put in a boundary that your DC and the other child will be able to follow like ‘you can play out on a Friday and Saturday from 4pm-6pm. Don’t knock etc on other days, the answer will be no’

It’s the screaming in the gardens I can’t stand, honestly I don’t understand the complete lack of parenting by some people, we wouldn’t dream of letting our kids just scream. The older I get the more I realise we need to buy a private island!

Yes I was thinking we’re going to have to do something like this, it’s getting too much now

I say no and mean it and it’s huge fights as this child promises donuts and YouTube at their house, tired of it!

How old is the child, cos if old enough then you need to have a Very Serious Conversation with them and say how families are all different and in your family children can only play on a Friday or Saturday or whenever, And only if no calling in the week. If they can’t remember this, then the answer will always be NO
and go talk to the parents and say what your rules are.
good luck, persistence in pre teens is off the charts

Lay down some boundaries and tell the other parent/s

Fights from the neighbours kid or your own? How old are they?

Yabu. What does your child want to do? If they're older primary and it's safe then they should be out if they want to. You can't keep your child in just because you want to see them.

Ah, missed the bit about YouTube. Then no, playing out in the fresh air only. Not in houses on screens.

This would annoy me too op. I don't know but your thread title may be a bit misleading. It makes it look as if you hate living on a street with children full stop. I was anticipating some grumpy person who just hated children altogether.

Or maybe I'm just tired and my reading comprehension is suffering as a result

From mine, 7

Yes sorry, perhaps a bit misleading by accident

We've had a bit of a similar situation really with a neighbouring girl. On the one hand I love DD having a play mate and being outside and active and all those things, but I can't relax because she's playing out and don't know what to do with myself . Also sometimes I just want her to play with bloody hundreds of expensive toys instead

Yes, I'm sure, but I am wondering if the votes in your poll are based on the question in your title rather than your actual posts. Seems like too many YABU! Don't know though.

I know the feeling op. Sometimes you just want to hang out with your own kids in your own house. It's not asking much.

Mine are older now so the problem has gone away by itself but it's annoying. The neighbour's house always had more sweets, more xbox, better toys, a bigger trampoline. So my guys always wanted to be round there.

So your child and their child are both 7? I think you're being a bit unreasonable to be honest. Plus these things tend to happen around this time of year as the evenings get lighter. I'd be encouraging them to play out, go on their bikes or in your garden and enjoy some time outside. I wouldn't be encouraging the you tube thing though. You could make a deal as a family that you'll allow one week night perhaps and the rest of the time it's no or you have after school activities planned. It is ok to say no to the child but I think there's some compromise to be had. A tad unrealistic to suggest moving house as the solution. What if that road has children who also dare to knock for your child?

It’s a bit daft that you want to move house because of kids on the street when the problem is your own child’s behaviour to be honest

It’s not just dare to knock for my child though. At the other end she has another friend who’s great. He knocks on only at the weekends as evenings are homework, dinner, bath and so on. I agree with the mum!
This other child is constantly calling

Her behaviour is difficult with this, I know that. But most children would find it hard to resist the lure of donuts, sweets & unlimited YouTube

Wouldn’t result in huge fights for most though. Can you tell this kid your kid is only playing out on weekends if that the rule? Although it seems a shame to not let them play out during the week. Find a compromise and then it’s easy for your kid to understand, and if they don’t like it it’s tough luck

Donuts and YouTube isn't really playing. What's the point for your child? I would be saying no on that basis alone. Shite junk food and screens.