How can I protect my children if my husband won’t move out?

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My husband is verbally abusive, he shouts at the children and is aggressive, it’s just his nature, he is impatient and gets frustrated easily.
I had a similar upbringing and I never forgave my mum for leaving me in a situation where I grew up in fear.
I want to be a single mum and bring the children up with love and affection but my husband refuses to leave our social housing and I don’t have the money to pay for alternative accommodation.
We have an autistic child who he can’t cope with so is constantly frustrated and angry and 2 other children who are as good as gold but he will find fault with everything they do.

Whose name is the house in?

Joint tenants

It’s Housing association

You need to apply to court for an occupation order.

Go to your housing association and ask for their advice then at least you understand the mechanisms you're dealing with. Mine eventually left and I took on the tenancy. Please also ask Women's Aid and take as much advice as you can. I am so sorry you find yourself here and yes, you're doing the right thing x

Have you asked him to leave and he says no? It’s domestic abuse

Contact your housing association and ask for support with this, there should be a way to evict him . Have you contacted any domestic abuse organisations?

Sorry you’re having to deal with this x

He just says it’s his house as much as mine and he will only leave in a box (coffin)
He doesn’t see anything wrong with his angry parenting and says I can leave if I don’t like it.

HAs have people there trained to deal with these situations. Contact them when it's safe for you to do so.

Yeah I had one like that. I had to get the police involved (physically verbally abusive and violent/ coercive control) and that way I got support, he was removed and to save his reputation he found somewhere else to move and I didn't need an occupation order.
You need to speak to womens aid and the police (its hard I know) but if your children are witnessing his outbursts you need to do it for them x

This sounds awful, Have you phoned women’s aid for advice ? They’ll know what to do X

Sounds unhappy for all of you. Another problem might be if you do separate and he still wants to see the DC and you're not there to mediate. Sorry

He doesn’t sound like the kind of man who will jump at the chance to solo parent, to be fair.

Call the police if he starts getting aggressive.

He will likely be allowed back to the house but he’ll know you are serious.

At the moment it’s all he says, she says and he could turn around and say you’ve met someone else so you’re making it up to get him out.
You need proof.
They’re not going to evict him from his home, just like they wouldn’t evict you with no proof.

Speak to the HA and women’s aid and ask their advice.
This is unfortunately a really common occurrence.

It may be that you have to go back onto the housing register and find somewhere else if he’s refusing to leave.

My friend was unable to get his partner evicted and so he had to leave with the kids whilst she was at work.
Fortunately, she left the home for a few days and then he had something she wanted, so he went back in and was able to get her to remove her name off the tendency.
I don’t know how he would have got rid of her else.