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AIBU?

to ask people to write me thank you letters for looking after their children?

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beansmum · 19/06/2008 23:01

I've been looking after a friend's dd once a week all year and was wondering if it would be really cheeky to ask her to write me a thank you letter. I'm going back to uni in Jan and have seen loads of jobs advertised for students to pick kids up from school and look after them for a couple of hours, I thought this would be a good reference type thing. I've also provided childcare for an alpha course at church, could I ask the leader to write something for me? Or would that be rude? And might they say no? Or feel that they couldn't say no but not really want to do it?

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littlelapin · 19/06/2008 23:02

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Twinklemegan · 19/06/2008 23:03

I think that's a good idea (although it sounded very strange in your thread title!) I'm sure they will completely understand your need for references.

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DirtySexyMummy · 19/06/2008 23:05

Thank you letter - silly.

Reference - perfectly fine.

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PeaGreene · 19/06/2008 23:06

It's not at all rude, now you explain it - your thread title sounded really odd!

Do you have any reason to suspect they might not be happy with your childcare? If so, then it's more difficult, but if all is fine, (and if the arrangement with your friend has gone on for a year then it sounds like it is) then they'll probably be happy to help out. People like to help. I would.

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beansmum · 19/06/2008 23:06

I think they are happy, they keep asking me to do it. Maybe they are just desperate! I suppose they could write me a reference, I just thought it would be a bit weird, they don't pay me or anything, and they really have no idea what I get up to all day.

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PeaGreene · 19/06/2008 23:07

My CMs have shown me "letters" people have written to them as part of their paperwork. I know it's part of the reference business thing, so it's just par for the course really.

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southeastastra · 19/06/2008 23:08

do you live in the year 2008?

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OverMyDeadBody · 19/06/2008 23:09

ask her to write you a reference, not a thank you letter.

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beansmum · 19/06/2008 23:13

ok then.

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Alambil · 20/06/2008 18:22

You can't ask someone to be thankful - but you can and should, ask for a reference.

Are you CRB checked due to the creche at church? If not, get them to do it - they should pay and it'll come in handy as an "extra" for parents looking for a CM after school

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Smithagain · 20/06/2008 21:20

I run children's activities at church, staffed by volunteers. Several have asked me for a reference - especially the 16-18 year olds who are after their first paid job.

I've never thought that it might be an issue that I don't pay them. I still know how well they work and it seems entirely appropriate to write a reference.