AIBU to worry about being stranded in Sweden and cancelling girls trip? (Fuel concerns)

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I am going on a long planned for trip to Stockholm with my girlfriends at the end of next week (3 days). I'm really worried that there might be issues coming back on the plane in terms of fuel shortage and I might get stranded. My DH thinks I'm being ridiculous and that it's more to do with the fact I don't like leaving our 6 year old for a weekend (it's true that I always really miss him when I'm away and if I'm being honest, don't love being a flight away! But this is probably ridiculous in itself) AIBU to be afraid I might get stranded and to cancel the trip? My friends are flying in from other airports so I could technically make up an excuse, though I don't like doing that

Have you taken out travel insurance, OP?

for the good of your anxiety you need to go.

Stockholm is also a wonderful place to visit.

its probably also good for your son & you to have friendships & a life outside of being a mum.

your DH will enjoy solo bonding time with your son

In the nicest possible way, YABU. Your flight wouldn’t go ahead if there was a genuine concern from the airline about fuel. If you cancel this last minute, regardless of whatever lie/excuse you come up with, your friends will know the truth and it is damaging to relationships.

I have a friend who constantly cancels things at the last minute (not even holidays, but dinners, cinema trips, girls’ nights out, casual events all in the same city she lives in etc) and she comes out with all sorts of excuses but we all know it’s because she doesn’t want to leave her child. I don’t give her a hard time over it but it secretly does really wind me up and I do feel like I’ve lost a friend. Some of our mutual friends no longer bother with her because she’s so flaky now. She’s not a reliable friend anymore. She can’t be counted on. If you cancel this trip, that could be what happens with you.

I know it can be really hard to leave your DC, especially if you’re prone to anxiety/overthinking but it’s SO important to maintain your identity outside of motherhood - for yourself and your DC. Childfree, adults-only time with friends is a big part of achieving that and it’s good for the soul. Go and have the best time ever, be free, enjoy that wonderful city (would kill to go there!!) and try and switch off and live in the moment with your friends. They’ll appreciate it and it’ll do you the world of good, too.

You are being ridiculous. The worst airlines are likely to do is combine flights. But it’s very possible to get home by train and ferry even if it takes a bit longer or fly from a different airport. The airlines are responsible for getting you home.
The headlines are a bit scaremongering and I think you’re latching onto this to justify you not going due to your anxiety. Don’t let it. Tell it to bog off and go! Stockholm is amazing and I’m very jealous. We were there last year on a cruise and we didn’t get to do half the things I wanted to do.

If you don't want to go, don't. There's no point being miserable/worried, and a lot of people don't want to leave their kids. Some do, yes. But there's nothing wrong with not going-I wouldn't want a friend coming with me if she wasn't going to enjoy herself fully.

Fuel supply in Sweden is stable. You will be fine

I think the point made by a previous poster about your DH and your son being able to enjoy a boys weekend is really important - much as you’re his mum and you’ll miss him, it’s important for DS to have that time with his dad.

Or a Ripple.

I'd have a bit of sympathy if was at the height of summer. Not next week.

Thank you all so much. You're right, I should just go. Also, me and DS go to see my parents (in a different country) every year for a couple of weeks without DH so we get a lot of time together whilst my DH gets very little daddy son time with him alone - you're probably right that it's good for them to be without me for a weekend!

By the time they fly you out, they’ll know whether or not they have fuel to fly you back. It’s just a weekend, not that much can change in three days and airlines do a bit of advance planning.

Honestly.

Thank you so much. That's very reassuring!

I returned from Cyprus last week after half term with DH and 9 y.o…. We had people asking if we’d cancel. It was very busy.

Everything is a risk, but on the balance of probabilities fuel shortage leaving you stranded isn’t a likely one.

Will be good for your son to be with his dad. Good for you also. Enjoy yourself.