AIBU to feel hurt my closest friend has disappeared after my breakup

[TimeTraveller2718]

I’ve recently come out of a very difficult breakup (30 years old) after 10 years together. We shared a home and a mortgage (no kids) and the relationship ended after I found out I’d been cheated on. It’s been incredibly painful and I’m still trying to process the whole thing

What’s made it harder is that my closest friend of nearly 15 years has basically disappeared since it all happened. I reached out and saw her twice early on, but since then she’s become really distant, declining invites, not making any effort, and just generally not showing up as a friend when I feel like I need support the most.

She has no connection to my ex, so it’s not a loyalty issue. I don’t know if I should accept the friendship has run its course. I don’t have lots of friends so reallly value friendships and feel quite hurt as it’s a time I needed my friend most. AIBU?

I have no advice but similar happened to me. I have no idea what happened. Weirdly she popped back up a year later and we met up once with all promises to see each other again soon and then nothing again. I also made sure I didn't talk about my break up and personal issues and tried to keep my chats with her light so I wasn't bringing her down or leaning on her too much. I wish I hadn't met again when she popped back up as it brought it all up again and I have had to re-heal from it all over again. I understand that maybe initially she felt our friendship had run its course but why come back and go again, I felt that was cruel.

It hurts, I understand. It was like a second break up. So no advice but lots of sympathy from me.

Not saying this out of anything other than care for you - but are you sure you are still asking her about her and how she is? Not draining her resources (which might be limited) with talking about your break up?