Do we dare to look outside our own lives sometimes?

[InnerCompass]

I don’t mean this as a criticism of anyone in particular, more a general observation. I sometimes wonder whether it’s easy to get very focused on our own problems and day-to-day concerns, and whether that can make it harder to notice what’s going on for other people or in the wider world. On the other hand, everyone has enough on their plate already and self-preservation matters too.

AIBU to think there’s a balance to be struck between tending to our own lives and staying outward-looking?

YANBU with your question about balance but YABU to assume people don't already have this balance as your post seems to suggest.

What makes you think people don't have this balance OP?

I don’t know if it’s exactly what you mean but I do find on here people seem much more self focused and think they have it worse than everyone else. In real life my friends aren’t like that. On here there’s much more of a weird culture of being upset if your friends and family aren’t supportive enough. The person writing needs support because THEY have mental health issues/young family/other health issues/getting divorced and no one is rallying around or being understanding enough. If anyone points out maybe their friends and family also have a lot going on the poster either doesn’t respond or says they don’t have any of those issues. Despite the fact they cannot know that for definite.

He hasn’t assumed anything, she made a general observation.

Yes I agree with you, I believe / hope many still do, but also reminded they don’t when
people put their feet up on the chair behind you in the cinema
people use their phones to message / scroll when in th cinema and visually disturb everyone else behind or to the side of them, or take in shiny drinks containers that flick the cinema image everywhere.

people that drive so agressive and fast everywhere including quiet domestic roads
people who walk along pavements and they think they own it going two or more abreast whike everyone else shuffles into the road / against a wall or bush (and then huff if one person has to move their arm).
people who shout and scream in their back gardens day and night / let their unattended dog bark and whine for hours at a time and never consider their neighbours.

just generally inconsiderate neighbours with being noisy (yes we can hear all your arguments, again). Or parking their cars in bays that are not theirs.

somtimes we do have to look after ourselves I agree, but not all the time, sometimes you gain more by being kind than being an ar&e.

people who send shouty emails to people, hey we are all trying to live and survive, so why?
from a peri menopausal lady…