To try to infiltrate a friend group

[Goinggoinggong]

Is this weird?

Have friends, but not really a solid group anymore, since my Dc got a little older and work situation changed
I often see different groups of friends on Instagram in the place I live (ex pat area)
Would it be weird to try to join one of these friend groups-via a hobby or through my Dc’s hobbies-is that weird?

I don't think that would be weird at all! Someone did this with a group I do a hobby with and her and I are really close friends two years on. She's also close to one of the others and the three of us meet weekly.

The word 'infiltrate' is a bit weird! Only because it sounds a bit 'espionage'! But nothing wrong with widening your social circle and there are lots of ways to do that and those you have suggested are completely fine and normal. But would recommend joining through your own interests as opposed to your child's - build your social circle outside of your child as they will grow and change their own friendships. I was an ex-pat for 4 years, I made friends through work but also through a weekend watercolour class and singing in a local band... they must have been starved of talent if they let me in! Good luck!

But did she see your group on Instagram and aim to do it and tell you about it? 🤣
Feel a bit weird about it, but so hard to make friends once kids a bit older and wfh. Never had a problem when younger through school, uni, jobs, other mums, then it seems to change a bit

You know what OP it’s better than sitting around and waiting for someone to befriend you so yes go for it. It’s just another way of networking but to make friends.

She walked right up to the group and asked could she join next time. I wasn't there but she came in the following week. I think whatever way you do.it is fine. If they are weird about it, nothing lost.

Not weird , no.

People will naturally do that more when younger - in their teens and 20s to find others who are a better fit for them. Why should we not do it at any age?

I’ve joined a really lovely knitting group we meet every fortnight. I do crochet but they’re ok with that.