Inheritance after estrangement

[Sillyme1]

Am I being unreasonable to think that if a child stops contact with his/her parent they cannot expect to inherit from the estranged parent on their demise?

No they can't expect to but the parents may still want to leave them their share regardless.

Nobody estranged or not, should expect anything. Surely what is left and to whom is soley the business of the parent.

It’s fair enough.

Most people I know who are no contact don’t want anything from their parents, including money.

I know I dont. They gave me plenty of ‘character’ through my childhood abuse and neglect, what more could I ask for!

In Scotland children have a legal right to a proportion of the moveable (ie not houses or land) part of the estate. That's true whether estranged or not. I don't know how often it's enforced though.

In many countries it's not possible to disinherit your children whether you want to or not. In England you can. Whether or not it's "fair" very much depends on the context.

I don't expect too but I'd bloody love to inherit something from my mother.
The joy of having a nice bit of cash without the pain of losing someone.

It’s up to the deceased person writing the will ( or not writing their will and choosing to be intestate) The child can expect or not expect but its not their decision.

In France you can’t desinherit children bit like everything there are ways and means .

Depends on the law of the country. I'm in Scotland, DH has an estranged son who will probably be knocking at the door wanting his % of the movable estate when the time comes.

No one should expect to inherit anything, regardless of their familial situation and whether it is close or 'cooled'. But some countries have laws around this.

Dead people don't write wills.

No they can't expect to but the parents may still want to leave them their share regardless.

I was NC with my Dad for 25 years before his death. He still left me an equal share of his estate (which was barely more than fuck all because he was a cocklodging shyster). I gave it to a charity he would have hated.

I think if you dont want anything to do with someone in life you have no business experience ting anything from them in death.

But, if they choose to leave you something, its ok to consider it a peace offering / apology / acknowledgement

People go NC for all sorts of reasons. I think if one side, whether it’s kids, parents or grandparents genuinely hope for reconciliation then they shouldn’t disinherit.

I expect/want nothing from them but would give it straight to my DC if I did inherit anything. It would feel like dirty money to use for myself but I think I'd be ok with passing it along to give DC a leg up in life. It's unlikely anyway, me going NC has just made it easier for them to give it all to the golden child without making themselves look bad, let them crack on I say 🤷🏻‍♀️

I am NC with my 'mother' for very good reason but she uses inheritance as some kind of carrot. It would be nice if she did have me in her will because all she would be passing on is inheritance my aunt and grandmother left me which she never actually passed on to me. She is unaware wills are public online and I found out only recently I was left things in two wills, both of which she was executor with her best friend the solicitor so honestly yes I do want my inheritance, but it wouldnt be from her technically anyway.

Children almost certainly go NC with a parent as an absolute last resort. I am NC with my own parents (who'll absolutely leave nothing to me).

I hope with all my heart that none of my children ever feel the need to go NC with me but, if they do, I will leave them an equal share of anything I have.

I want them to know that my love for them, as a mother, was always unconditional, and equal to their siblings, and my parting gift to them will be that.

Children go NC to protect themselves from further hurt and I'm not causing even more hurt by dying and leaving them out.

All depends on the circumstances. My eldest child took out a fraudulent power of attorney so he could spend his dad's money when he went down with dementia. When we removed the POA he made a false complaint to Social Services which caused maximum distress. He has not been in touch for some three years. No cards, no presents. I have written my will into trust, initially for the benefit of DH if I do not survive him but then to my one surviving son. Legal advice is that the will is secure. I am absolutely sure he feels entitled to cash and will come looking for money when one of us dies. He can be quite abusive, so I am somewhat fearful of an attempt at coercion. However, we are well supported by the rest of the family.