My children

[Sarahthehelper]

I inherited a house from my parents , I am the sole beneficiary of their will , but It was always agreed that when sold I would give a quarter each to my 2 children
my gripe is my husband and I are spending every weekend clearing it ,multiple trips to the tip , charity shop ect , as well ass sorting my parents bills and all the legal stuffalso my poor husband who has been in ill health is sorting minor diy stuff out , while my children and their partners are having lovely weekends waiting for their inheritance, not once offering to help in any way
AIBU to resent my children ,

You don’t need to tell them what was left by the time you sell it. Just send them their “share” each. And that share is after you’ve deducted costs and fair hourly rates for your DHs work fixing the place up. Plus a holiday for your time.

If there’s £100k left then give them £15k each. Job done

Send them each a copy of the little red hen.

Honestly, I'd just pay for house clearance (for example, British Heart Foundation charity offer this) and deduct it from the funds afterwards... Take the sentimental items and allow a clearance service to do the rest.

there no legal agreement, its what my parents wanted and they knew I would split it so there was no need to change the will .

Stop working on the house. Sooner or later they'll enquire when it's going on the market. At which point I'd say something along the lines of...not until it's ready, maybe a couple of years because I'm so busy/tired and so are you.

tell them
it is too much to do for the two of you and ask them to prioritise this over meeting friends/ going out. If they refuse then I suggest you and DH treat yourself to a weekend away before you split the money

That’s sort of what I was thinking , but as heartbreaking as losing my parents so close together was and it will be so hard to let the last piece of them go , I think I need to move on

Do your. Children have kids OP?

Honestly, I wouldn't expect them to help. If they did it would be great, but a house clearance is a miserable job and they will be doing yours. I would do my own parents and shield my children from it.

Sounds like you’re still very much grieving OP. Take a breather from it all. I would send a message to your children and express disappointment at their lack of care. They can and should always make time for their parents irrespective of inheritance or not.

Going through the clear out isn’t only physically demanding but it’s emotionally and mentally taxing. They should’ve helped.

Let them know how you feel and takE it from there.

Tell them directly.
Its back breaking and emotionally difficult.

If they want 100ks can they please use the bank holiday weekend to come and help