My daughter is married to a high flying executive in the City. She has her own demanding career and they have (up until now) supported each other and had a very happy and productive life. They also have a child together.
Recently however her husband has been promoted and as a result now does some international travel. Not an issue for my daughter, she has supported and encouraged him all the way, particularly as they both benefit from his income in terms of where they live.
The issue that my daughter now has is that he has a female colleague (also married.) that he is spending a lot of time with and is planning further (non essential) trips away to conferences and client networking events. Again, not an issue until very recently.
The issue is that he returned a month ago from a week long trip to Europe with his colleague and has become secretive (hiding his phone, turning it face down etc) and texting this colleague all day long (including weekends) and into the night (up til midnight). He claims that they are just friends, and he is helping her through her difficult marriage and a disappointment at work. The final straw for my daughter was when they were going to bed last night he had his phone under his pillow! In addition, he has become distant, doesn’t text her as he usually did, doesn’t let her know what time he‘ll be home etc and is just generally ‘absent’ even when he”s in the room.
He is blaming her and saying that she is ‘controlling’, ‘dragging him down’ and ‘paranoid.’ She says she can’t live like this for the rest of her life, and, of course, there is a child involved. She feels abandoned and very depressed and anxious about it all.
AIBU to suggest to my daughter that he is, at the very least, having an emotional affair, and that she needs to prepare for the worst? Does anyone have advice or experience?