To date someone like this at my age?

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I’m 39 with two kids (both teens)

i met a lovely guy who’s 32. Age gap is fine with me.

however he confessed he’s a virgin. Never had a relationship, only dates.

i asked him why basically. He said he was focussing on his career etc and was never really bothered. Then he started looking for a relationship and dating but didn’t meet anyone he wanted to progress things with

he lives at home with an impressive amount of savings and looking to buy a house. Has a car and a good career as a bespoke engineer. Nice looking, good manners

i meanwhile have been married and divorced with two kids, I have a reasonable body count. I don’t look my age but I obviously don’t have a perfect body.

he seems so nice but I feel it’s a lot of pressure on me if I’m going to be his first. And once he gets a taste of it, is he going to want to sleep around?

he definitely doesn’t seem to want just sex, he’s wanting to meet someone he connects with but I’m not sure how I feel

AIBU - it’s fine, date him
YNBU - run

It’s weird. Are you sure you believe him?

If he's that nice and has everything else going for him I'd give it a go. Seems shallow to dismiss him for that. And at least he's being honest with you, some would lie about it. The honesty is refreshing, imo.

It wouldn’t make any difference either way.

Although if you’re worried about him getting a taste for it and wanting to sleep with others that might warrant a conversation. But that’s just in your head though, he’s not said that.

'Nice'? Is that what you want in a partner? If so, go for it.

Why do you know how much he's got saved? Seems weird

2 totally different life experiences. I'd be shocked if this works out tbh

We talked about why he lived at home and he was saying how much he had saved for a mortgage and how much he needed etc, I don’t think that seems weird?

I do think it’s very different stages of life though and that worries me