You don’t get any brownie points for being a good productive citizen - I sussed that out years ago when I was on benefits as a single mom
you feel ( and rightly so ) that you are doing everything right everything you were told to do as a young person
Go to Uni
get a good job
buy a house
get married a have 2 kids
And you feel that you should benefit from doing the “ right thing “ cos that’s what you were told to do
then you see a maybe a single mum
2 Kids
in a social housing house that’s way better than yours. A new build. It’s got solar panels
lovely big garden if it wa sold it would be around 300-350K
she’s even got savings of 5k
but the rent is around 400 a month compare to 1500 a month on the private rentals and say 1100 as a mortgage
she’s working but around 30hours a week
getting UC as a top up
help with child care cost
and child support from the kids dad
she can afford a holiday abroad with the kids
she isn’t overly stressed about money
And your left thinking how is this possible & fair
I should have done better at school 😂
if she has another kid she gets extra money and won’t have to work till the child is 3 so effectively 3 years at home and still being supported.
but you desperately want another child but you can’t afford it cos you can’t afford the hit in your wages and extra child care cost
but that single mom isn’t your enemy