Helping a former boyfriend…

[IronNeonClasp]

AIBU; Former bf invited over for Easter meal; additional problems / drink issues / disabilities I took pity on. Then in the morning he discloses proper diarrhoea in my double bed (like man diarrhoea - baby x 15) and acted like it was ‘normal’ and I cleaned it all up the following day but when they pulled the cover up to disclose the poop it was absolutely vile.

Then they message me midweek (I’m still fuming) asking “why the silent treatment’ and I just ended up thinking “Fuck. This.” Enraged and blocked them and their friendship.

Am I being unreasonable? As I’m feeling bad for cutting them out of my life despite them shitting in my sanctuary.

Thanks all 🙂

Thete seems to be key information missing here. If you had an ex over for an Easter meal because you felt sorry for him, why was he sleeping in your bed, even before the explosive diarrhoea?

Good point I just let him ‘share my bed’ as we’d done that years before…

id text back and call him out on it - I literally wouldn’t be able to stop myself telling him how disgusting he is 😫

So you agree with me ‘ending’ the ‘friendship’? I’ve been feeling terrible for blocking him but my gut says anyone who can do that is morally wrong. I’m just looking for some reassurance that I’m not overreacting!!

His gut said “I need to take a massive explosive dump in @IronNeonClasp’s lovely bed”. And then this prince of a friend made you, @IronNeonClasp , clean it up. You do not need alcoholics with continence issues in your life.

This is how I have been envisioning it all since post-Easter. Thank you so much. I’m a single old mum and I don’t expect this unacceptable behaviour when I’ve welcomed them into my home and cooked a massive Easter dinner - but I wasn’t sure - so wanted to check as it’s not really a topic I can throw in to normal friend chit chat (!), thanks again

*Oh and they were not poisoned btw - seriously- they are alcoholic. I hadn’t realised how bad they had become until I picked them up.

Good for you! Also, who in their right mind does what he did, and then gets all arsey when you don’t text him?! Any normal person be a)mortified and b) grovelling and trying really hard to make it up to you. This guy is disgusting and not just cos he plopped in your bed.

To anyone who isn't you, this is blindingly obvious 👍 Your gut is right about his guts, so have the guts to flush him away.

There was no mortified and no grovelling.
I think that’s what got my back up after so much acceptance.

ETA I’ve cleaned up after him before but not on the bed shitting scale.

I’m not even going into the deep cleanse of the toilet I had to do when he’d left which was covered in more poop, thick piss and vomit.
Really appreciate the responses. Thanks so much !

Fuck that shit!!

Absofuckinglutely 💯

Nope, to drink so much he shits in your bed - holy moly! That's not someone you need in your life, especially one who showed absolutely no remorse.

Then they message me midweek (I’m still fuming) asking “why the silent treatment?"

I'd have sent him pics and said, "This."

Please tell me your child wasn’t in the home when you had an alcoholic staying over. You don’t owe this person anything and you’re not responsible for cleaning up their literal shit.

But, she had no choice. It was in her own home.

Absolutely not my kids were at their Dads hence why I thought “it would be ‘kind’” to cook for my (former) friend over Easter

Stop being kind and don't feel sorry for him. Block everywhere and get on with your own life. You can't save an alcoholic.