AIBU to want a polite way to end a visit?

[Sam155320]

DH Cousin first time visiting us tomorrow 1130. Making light lunch with tea/coffee & cakes for after. She has been known to overstay at people’s houses before but what’s the best way to let her know indirectly when it’s time to leave without causing offence?

You are all going out at 4pm as have cinema booked/friends invited you over etc.

Slap your knees, stand up and say "well it's been lovely seeing you..."

This is the way.

Tell her beforehand that you're really looking forward to seeing her, but unfortunately she will have to leave at x time, and then stick to it. So if you've said 4 and she's still there at 3.55 you start getting to your feet and saying how much you've enjoyed seeing her but as you said you've got things to do so will have to throw her out not. Bonus points for handing her coat to her at the same time. NB don't try and invent commitments - just leave it as unspecified things.

People like that drive me wild.

I would pretend you have plans at whatever time, then start running around getting ready just before you ‘leave’.
Or just do what I do and let the anger build up the longer they stay, and then you end up snapping at them and feeling like a dick, but they don’t do it again.

So you expect other people to magically guess how long you want a visit to be, and if they don’t read your mind correctly you get angry?

I would indeed imagine they don’t do it again, if by ‘it’ you mean have any desire to visit you.

Why two almost identical threads?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5518328-aibu?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

Oh good, glad this has already been said. The one, true way of getting rid of people from your house.

I once left a gift bag by my front door with a card stuck on it. As my visitors arrived I pointedly moved it out of the way, saying that we’re heading off to an event later.

Closer to the time I got up and started clearing up saying that we need to get ready to leave ‘as well’. It was perfect.