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AIBU to consider legal action after dismissal for long-term sickness?

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KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:18

I’ve been dismissed from my job today due to long term sickness since August last year. I have crohns, ASD, and very severe OCD. I have intrusive thoughts and last summer I declared these to my boss who completely misunderstood me and was worried I’d act on these thoughts shock I told her they caused me immense distress.

Last month, I was confident I’d be able to return to work as I’m finally having CBT and on the right medication, now on an SSRI combined with an anti psychotic. My boss was supporting my return. But then a week later she decided to place me on medical suspension without any prior warning because occ health deemed me unfit to work due to my OCD still taking up a lot of my day. I then fed this back to my line manager saying I’ll beat this decision as in prove occ health wrong and that I am indeed fit for work. She arranged a meeting with me to discuss suspension and she knew my union rep was on annual leave but decided to go ahead with it anyway!!!

They dismissed me due to long term sickness and not taking into account what’s working well with my mental health!! I’m looking at finding a solicitor as I believe this is unfair dismissal due to my disabilities under the Equality Act 2010. I’ve contacted a few and had a few quotes back.

AIBU by wanting to take legal action and sue them because my OCD is deliberating and because of my ASD I have different communication styles that they’ve completely misunderstood. Do you think this is unfair dismissal ?

im so traumatised by it all and im worried ill be made homeless and have my property repossessed as I’ll have no money and won’t be able to find a future job

OP posts:
musiclover2026 · 17/04/2026 20:43

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 17/04/2026 20:12

If they’ve said it then it has to be taken seriously.

OCD isn’t a get-out from being held responsible for the threats you make, even if you allege to never mean to carry them out.

Presumably you were one of those calling for John Davidson to be raked over the coals for shouting an involuntary racial slur due to Tourette's at the Baftas too.

If her manager knew anything at all about this type of OCD she'd know to be sympathetic and supportive and that these were nothing more than intrusive thoughts that would never be carried out.

Velumental · 17/04/2026 20:45

40ClockRock · 17/04/2026 20:36

Yes agreed. I’m fairly sure that legally they couldn’t fire someone with OCD purely for saying they had thoughts about harming others, because of all the reasons mentioned above.

I think this depends on if they said 'im really struggling with thoughts of harming stephany' or 'evergtime I see stephanys face I picture myself plunging a knife into it and her covered in blood'

Thistooshallpsss · 17/04/2026 20:45

OP if you fail on your appeal you will be dismissed. You can consider a tribunal appeal seek advice etc etc and may months down the line win some money. But it won’t give you your job back. I think it would be helpful to research how you can manage in the medium term financially and make plans accordingly.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 17/04/2026 20:45

PhoebeBuffay1234 · 17/04/2026 20:40

It does, actually.

No it doesn’t. A human is going to human. A person with OCD has the same capability to harm as anyone else.

I’m not arguing the OP here and very much believe that their doctor has determined that they are not any more of a threat as anyone else is. In the OP’s case I even said it’s likely unrelated to the OH decision.

But we’ll never know as it’s now becoming clear that the OP isn’t going answer related questions to that

Bassetyate · 17/04/2026 20:45

The bottom line is that you’re not going to get useful legal advice here. You need to speak to a solicitor who can review the evidence and give you a honest view of your prospects of success.

You need to look at this situation objectively and try to take out the emotion or you risk flogging a dead horse, wasting time and money.

You can be fairly dismissed for ill-health if it prevents you from doing your job. Just because you disagree with that decision, doesn’t mean it’s legally unfair and it’s not the role of a tribunal to put itself in your employers shoes.

catipuss · 17/04/2026 20:48

Can you do your job is the question, if you can it's unfair to the company if you can't, what can they do? What business can afford to pay someone who can't work? You need to look at benefits f you can't work really

saltinesandcoffeecups · 17/04/2026 20:49

40ClockRock · 17/04/2026 20:41

Research suggests it actually is less likely though. People with harm OCD tend to be highly conscientious and have a very strict sense of moral code. That’s why even the thought of harming someone else distresses them to the degree they become mentally ill worrying about the thought. How many times have we thought we want to “kill or boss/kids/partner.” We don’t mean it of course it’s a passing thought. But the OCD person is so appalled by the thought they beat themselves up about it over and over.

People with harm OCD tend to be highly conscientious and have a very strict sense of moral code.

Tend to be … not incapable. Just like women tend to be less violent… not incapable as an example.

This all people are saying here. A person is still capable of harm even with OCD.

40ClockRock · 17/04/2026 20:51

saltinesandcoffeecups · 17/04/2026 20:49

People with harm OCD tend to be highly conscientious and have a very strict sense of moral code.

Tend to be … not incapable. Just like women tend to be less violent… not incapable as an example.

This all people are saying here. A person is still capable of harm even with OCD.

Yes of course, I agree. Anyone could theoretically do anything.

Nuthatchtreelover · 17/04/2026 20:53

Don’t waist time money and angst on this, surely it will be long and stressful and very negative process. I’d use the money for something positive that you love.
Whilst it sounds horrible for you; you could also think about it from the perspective of the company and other employees who have been understaffed for 7 months.

Avslighthead · 17/04/2026 20:54

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 20:35

@PhoebeBuffay1234 Ive been diagnosed 4 times with severe ocd and it saddens me that people are misunderstanding!!! Thank you for your support, it means so much

So you’ve recovered and then been re diagnosed? Multiple times

MrsVBS · 17/04/2026 20:54

You’ve been off since last summer, do other people carry your work when you are off, how does it impact the team, will your OCD be a factor when you return? If you’ve been paid all this time I would say your employer has been more than understanding. Just because you have a disability, it’s not a get out of jail free card, if they have followed procedures then you won’t have a leg to stand on.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 17/04/2026 20:54

40ClockRock · 17/04/2026 20:51

Yes of course, I agree. Anyone could theoretically do anything.

And that is what everyone has been saying.

And on that note, I’m out. Can someone tag me if the OP ever responds to question about the OH comments on the time dedicated in the day on OCD?

I’m starting to feel like I understand why she was dismissed if she’s not able to provide basic information or answer a question.

TheCobbleCreekMonster · 17/04/2026 20:55

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 20:07

@Avslighthead Please do some research on ocd rather than making me feel like shit.

The thing is the OCD is irrelevant here. You are not capable of doing the work the employer needs you to do as a result of it. It could be any illness. It makes no odds. Try and see it from their POV. They have employed you in good faith and you haven't done a stroke in seven months. In this economy, they have to protect themselves and try and run at full strength. Unless you have really really good evidence of discrimination, don't even consider legal action because it will cost you a fortune and what bit of your mental health you are clinging on to.
Let it go and concentrate on healing all day every day and when you are well, start afresh.

noctilucentcloud · 17/04/2026 20:55

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 17/04/2026 20:40

After I lost my partner in a horrific incident and got diagnosed with ptsd and depression, I went back to work after 2 months. You just have to pull your socks up and get on with it, mental issues or not, especially if you have a mortgage. Honestly sounds like OP was trying to game the system and got burned.

Edited

I'm sorry, that must've been awful. Well done for surviving and getting through (and I don't mean that glibly as someone who's had poor MH myself at times). Not everyone's mental health problem can be dealt with like that though. The OP has been deemed unfit for work by OH so she's obviously still struggling significantly.

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 20:55

Before you’re going to get anywhere with this you’re going to have to produce medical evidence which will rebut the OH. From what you’ve said here it sounds like a fair decision so you may well struggle.

XenoBitch · 17/04/2026 20:56

Nuthatchtreelover · 17/04/2026 20:53

Don’t waist time money and angst on this, surely it will be long and stressful and very negative process. I’d use the money for something positive that you love.
Whilst it sounds horrible for you; you could also think about it from the perspective of the company and other employees who have been understaffed for 7 months.

Whilst it sounds horrible for you; you could also think about it from the perspective of the company and other employees who have been understaffed for 7 months

That is absolutely not a burden for the person off sick to bear.

Hallywally · 17/04/2026 20:56

It’s about what is sustainable from a business perspective. Seven months is unsustainable from a business perspective when OH have deemed you unfit to return to work. It’s that simple. Of course appeal the OH assessment and check they have complied with the law etc.

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 20:57

paulhollywoodshairgel · 17/04/2026 19:26

Have you looked at acas website? They should have exhausted every avenue before dismissing you. For the future have a look at access to work as well as they can provide grants for things to help you in the workplace. I suffer with agoraphobia and I get a transport grant for taxis to take me door to door.

Not quite. They have to make reasonable adjustments not exhaust every avenue.

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 20:59

Itsmetheflamingo · 17/04/2026 19:35

That’s not why they sacked her and nor should it be. You can’t discriminate against someone with a mental illness by sacking them to protect your staff from harm.

if they did sack her for this reason and it can be proven then yes OP has a discrimination case

Yes you can actually as long as you can demonstrate that the dismissal would be a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 21:00

KittyCoo · 17/04/2026 19:58

@Avslighthead long term sickness was the reason why

@Itsmetheflamingo Thsnk you very much for helping me to clarify the reasons why I was dismissed were unfair and explaining that it’s illegal to sack someone with a disability. It makes me feel like absolute shit calling me dangerous and my psychiatrist has confirmed it not dangerous to my boss but she’s still having none of it!!!

It is not illegal to sack someone with a disability

Mollimayy · 17/04/2026 21:01

Oh goodness I feel for you but we have a girl at work bi polar ocd anxiety you name it and while I desperately feel for her she is useless in the job and we are feeling like we are providing care in the community while she gets paid. Really hard for everyone involved but trying to put it across from the other side x

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 17/04/2026 21:03

XenoBitch · 17/04/2026 20:56

Whilst it sounds horrible for you; you could also think about it from the perspective of the company and other employees who have been understaffed for 7 months

That is absolutely not a burden for the person off sick to bear.

Erm, yes it is. You can't expect unlimited gimmes forever. 7+ months was generous!

Itsmetheflamingo · 17/04/2026 21:05

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 20:59

Yes you can actually as long as you can demonstrate that the dismissal would be a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim

You’re mistaken. There is no defence to discrimination.

think what you’re trying to say is this isn’t discrimination. That may be the case, we don’t know enough details to say if it is or not.

StrictlyCoffee · 17/04/2026 21:06

Itsmetheflamingo · 17/04/2026 20:27

They can be removed from the workplace.

This isn’t the same as sacking.

again, if they are judged unfit to perform their job after reasonable adjustments, that is a legitimate reason to sack them.

Sacking them because you think that they pose harm to your workforce, even through you know they have an illnesses that causes these thoughts, is not legitimate

what adjustments can you make for someone threatening to harm colleagues?

Itsmetheflamingo · 17/04/2026 21:06

PILEALLTHEPILLSONTHEFLOOR · 17/04/2026 21:03

Erm, yes it is. You can't expect unlimited gimmes forever. 7+ months was generous!

No, the sick person doesn't bear the burden of the employers problem. It’s just a cost of doing business

employing people comes with risk.

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