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9 replies

Gini87 · 17/04/2026 16:30

I work for the NHS. I’m non-clinical and in a Band 7 role. The portfolio I work in lost our senior manager when they walked before Christmas due to higher up leaders and stress it was causing them. They’ve since quit and are not returning.

Other staff reporting into this manager have been offered 1:1s and management support. They are a higher band than me - 8a. I’ve been left without. I’ve chased and asked several times to the higher leadership team who I should be reporting to and each time I am met with radio silence. It’s also appraisal season and my question about my appraisal has gone unanswered too.

I have peers who have slightly different remits but are included in key meetings. I’ve asked to attend just from a knowledge and development perspective, but my requests are not responded to. One of the 8as asked in their supervision and the manager to whom I’d asked myself said no I wouldn’t be allowed to attend.

I see these peers gaining knowledge and I’m brought in to something as an afterthought of in other meetings I look stupid as I don’t know what’s going on due to things being discussed in the meeting I’m not to attend.

My confidence is eroding. I feel invisible and undervalued and overlooked I don’t feel like I can stay in this role for much longer. I don’t know what to do / where to escalate requests for support and an appraisal or in for when I get zero response. The others have had job planning too and I’ve asked and again nothing.

Im beginning to feel what’s the point as nothing is going to change. Has anybody else experienced this or similar? Not sure i just need to suck it up.

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StormInaDcup99 · 17/04/2026 16:35

Op that is really poor management and I feel for you.

Sorry.. I cant give any advice and hoping someone else comes along soon who can help

Gini87 · 17/04/2026 16:46

StormInaDcup99 · 17/04/2026 16:35

Op that is really poor management and I feel for you.

Sorry.. I cant give any advice and hoping someone else comes along soon who can help

It’s quite an unhappy place at the moment generally.

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Almosttheweekend · 17/04/2026 16:58

This is terrible!

I would forward the requests that have received no response to the next level of seniority and ask them to provide a response as a matter of priority. Explain to them exactly how you are feeling about this.

This is a welfare concern and your employer has a duty of care to provide adequate managerial support.

Alittlefrustrated · 17/04/2026 17:01

Have you considered speaking to HR?
I don't suppose your Trust begins with "H"? I've seen people experience this. They left.

airportfloor · 17/04/2026 17:12

I find it really odd they've just left you hanging. Very poor on their part. Can you access any online HR portal? I work in the public sector and if I were to vanish one day my line reports would automatically be transferred to my boss (I think), and this would be reflected on our HR system which we can all access.

Who signs off your annual leave for example? I think HR could help you by explaining who technically you report into, and then that person may (or may not) be able to help you with the other issues.

Edictfromno10 · 17/04/2026 17:17

Oh this is so NHS. Do you actually have a line manager? Are in a union? Why dont you start WFH and chilling, keep the emails for evidence that you did try to get managed but you got ignored!

Gini87 · 17/04/2026 18:31

Edictfromno10 · 17/04/2026 17:17

Oh this is so NHS. Do you actually have a line manager? Are in a union? Why dont you start WFH and chilling, keep the emails for evidence that you did try to get managed but you got ignored!

Incoming manager not likely for a couple of more months. Yes I am in the union.

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Gini87 · 17/04/2026 18:32

Alittlefrustrated · 17/04/2026 17:01

Have you considered speaking to HR?
I don't suppose your Trust begins with "H"? I've seen people experience this. They left.

No not a H but beginning to think it’s the NHS in general!

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Wetcappuccino · 17/04/2026 18:44

Raise a formal grievance with the support of your TU.

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