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Is my new boss a micromanager?

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PoliteEagle · 16/04/2026 10:11

Joined a new company recently as a manager. My boss is the head of the team. Currently there are 3 ppl in the team.
he is driving me crazy with his management style and I am not sure if I am overreacting?
He wants to have a call with every member of the team every morning where he asks what is on our to do list and then gives a tasks for a day and asks how we are getting on with tasks.
i just feel myself as a graduate not as an experienced professonal with many years of experience. I don’t feel like I have real ownership or responsibility for anything. After I completed my analysis I am not allowed to take it forward myself. He always himself emails the stakeholders. He states in his email who did the work, it is not like he is taking credit but still.
what to do? Is it normal? And I am just overreacting?

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ForgottenPasswordNewAccount · 16/04/2026 10:14

Yes and it will get worse.
Time to look for a new job

Lightuptheroom · 16/04/2026 10:15

Yes, he's micromanaging
The morning call bit is quite usual, my current manager is obsessed with 'huddles'
Ask him what he envisages your role to be if he's the one communicating with stakeholders, what are you expected to be 'managing' sounds like he's overseeing the complete workflow which you 3 feed into?

TimeForTeaAndG · 16/04/2026 10:16

Edit: apologies, my eyes jumped over the bit that you are the manager. I agree with pp who suggested a role review with him. Are you the first manager in this role and he's still getting used to the change in structure?

It doesn't sound like micro-managing to me. If he is the one moving your work up the chain then I would view it as him having oversight and reviewing before it goes out to whoever is receiving it. I'd say that's actually a good thing to have an extra sense check.

The morning meeting is also a pretty normal thing, he wants to know everyone has tasks for the day and can gauge who has capacity for anything he's handing out.

PotatoRasta · 16/04/2026 10:19

I’d hate that management style too and I’ve left a company due to this in the past however the job market is currently in disarray. My current manager used to do weekly 1-1 meetings to check on my tasks and tell me what to do too and that used to drive me up the wall as my previous company only used to do monthly 1-1s which was my preference as it gave me a sense of ownership. It changed after a while to bi-monthly but I still hate it. I just prefer a hands-off managerial style but some people don’t mind it. How do the other 2 staff feel about it?

Swiftie1878 · 16/04/2026 10:19

PoliteEagle · 16/04/2026 10:11

Joined a new company recently as a manager. My boss is the head of the team. Currently there are 3 ppl in the team.
he is driving me crazy with his management style and I am not sure if I am overreacting?
He wants to have a call with every member of the team every morning where he asks what is on our to do list and then gives a tasks for a day and asks how we are getting on with tasks.
i just feel myself as a graduate not as an experienced professonal with many years of experience. I don’t feel like I have real ownership or responsibility for anything. After I completed my analysis I am not allowed to take it forward myself. He always himself emails the stakeholders. He states in his email who did the work, it is not like he is taking credit but still.
what to do? Is it normal? And I am just overreacting?

Hard to say. He may just be doing this for now, because you’re new. He may be trying to show you the level of detail he expects YOU to be on top of in future.
Ask him if this is the way he always operates. Hopefully he’ll say no! But if he says yes, you can ask him how he expects you to fold into this MO, and how it will allow you to progress.

PoliteEagle · 16/04/2026 10:42

Swiftie1878 · 16/04/2026 10:19

Hard to say. He may just be doing this for now, because you’re new. He may be trying to show you the level of detail he expects YOU to be on top of in future.
Ask him if this is the way he always operates. Hopefully he’ll say no! But if he says yes, you can ask him how he expects you to fold into this MO, and how it will allow you to progress.

No it is the same with other 2 team members :(
I am a bit scared to confront him directly as I know that they searched for staff in another country and withdrew the offer after the person try to negotiate with them. So I I suspect they will kick me out and I don’t want to go nowhere in this job market and economy ..

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PoliteEagle · 16/04/2026 10:44

PotatoRasta · 16/04/2026 10:19

I’d hate that management style too and I’ve left a company due to this in the past however the job market is currently in disarray. My current manager used to do weekly 1-1 meetings to check on my tasks and tell me what to do too and that used to drive me up the wall as my previous company only used to do monthly 1-1s which was my preference as it gave me a sense of ownership. It changed after a while to bi-monthly but I still hate it. I just prefer a hands-off managerial style but some people don’t mind it. How do the other 2 staff feel about it?

I would be okay with weekly and just giving him updates on how my projects going on but here I don’t have rally responsibilities for projects just doing tasks for him.
another team member is managed the same way and they are okay with that. Third team member is a new one as well , joined later than me in senior manager capacity and treated the same. Not sure how they feel and how to discuss it with them

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PoliteEagle · 16/04/2026 10:48

TimeForTeaAndG · 16/04/2026 10:16

Edit: apologies, my eyes jumped over the bit that you are the manager. I agree with pp who suggested a role review with him. Are you the first manager in this role and he's still getting used to the change in structure?

It doesn't sound like micro-managing to me. If he is the one moving your work up the chain then I would view it as him having oversight and reviewing before it goes out to whoever is receiving it. I'd say that's actually a good thing to have an extra sense check.

The morning meeting is also a pretty normal thing, he wants to know everyone has tasks for the day and can gauge who has capacity for anything he's handing out.

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yes in this company but this person has been head of the team for past 10 years in different companies.
ideally yes I need to have a conversation but I am afraid that they will let me go. I know that they withdrew the offer for another role we had open because a person tried to negotiate with them. They called him unreasonable. So it doesn’t sound like they are receptive to upward feedback

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AmazingGreatAunt · 16/04/2026 11:09

Do you work using Agile/Scrum methodologies? Daily, brief, meetings are par for the course if so. Are you also running Sprints, or is this just some kind of weird hybrid?
Do you also have longer team meetings on a regular basis, where everyone gets an overview on who is doing what, by when?
Your team sounds very small to have 2 managers. If your boss is team lead what is your role?
I wouldn't have an issue with someone being the SPOC for stakeholders, so long as credit is given for work produced, which is the case.
If you find the intrusion too much, you could turn the tables and say "I have xyz tasks to complete (by abc deadlines - if relevant, especially where there are potential conflicts), what would you prioritise?"

PoliteEagle · 16/04/2026 11:20

AmazingGreatAunt · 16/04/2026 11:09

Do you work using Agile/Scrum methodologies? Daily, brief, meetings are par for the course if so. Are you also running Sprints, or is this just some kind of weird hybrid?
Do you also have longer team meetings on a regular basis, where everyone gets an overview on who is doing what, by when?
Your team sounds very small to have 2 managers. If your boss is team lead what is your role?
I wouldn't have an issue with someone being the SPOC for stakeholders, so long as credit is given for work produced, which is the case.
If you find the intrusion too much, you could turn the tables and say "I have xyz tasks to complete (by abc deadlines - if relevant, especially where there are potential conflicts), what would you prioritise?"

No I am neither in tech/IT nor in project management.
I am supposed to be IC manager so no ppl management responsibility the same is for colleague who is SM
no we don’t have long team meetings and I am largely unaware what other team members working on.
i don’t have conflict with tasks and deadlines as normally the task I am given are small and to be done within few hours. So it is like small tasks to assist the head of the team. It is weird set up, never had to deal with smth like that. Sometimes he just calls and asks me to do small calc in excel and spends like 10 mins on a call explaining what he wants while the tasks itself takes like 5 mins.

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ICouldHaveCheckedFirst · 16/04/2026 11:25

Sounds like he doesn't have enough to do.

Definitely ask for a review of your progress, how the different parts of your role are working out, development etc.

Sw1989 · 16/04/2026 11:37

Yes, and it will only get worse. My last company did this and it did my head in. One director like this who was a total control freak and would start calling/ emailing randomly with "urgent" tasks and had no concept of the fact that people's workloads also involved projects for other directors who also deemed their projects to be equally urgent.

I'd start looking for another job, as from my experience, challenging people like that does not go well!

PoliteEagle · 16/04/2026 11:41

Just to add that we had a mid probation review and he said they are happy with me because I do everything they tell me to do

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Friendlygingercat · 16/04/2026 11:53

Yes - in one job the departmental head liked to have a meeting every morning where everyone went through their plans for the day. There were also lots of team meetings which it was impossible to swerve. A colleague and I added up the time we had spent on meetings (which prevented us getting on with the real work) and tried to push back. To no avail. In order to keep up with the workload it would have been necessary to do unpaid time which was against my principles, So I let the less urgent tasks pile up. When someone asked for the results I just told them "well I spent so much time in meetings last week that I havnt got around to it yet".

It was a form of quiet quitting. Do what you are able to do in the hours you are paid for and then call it a day and go home. Pass it back as a management problem.

Just saw your post about a "probationary review". Send an email summarisng the results of the meeting and what was agreed. Create a paper trail.. If, after having had a satisfactory review, they try to backtrack that makes it very difficult for them to begin listing deficiencies.

MyKindHiker · 16/04/2026 11:58

The only answer on this is you need to manage your manager.

The way to do this is to start by naming the problem. Ideally you ask for a one to one - you organize the meeting so it's your agenda.

And you say - I think we need to think about how best we work and collaborate together to make sure we're getting the most out of our relationship.

Frame the daily calls / task management as a structural problem that you need their help in fixing because to work best you need to feel empowered. Don't try and make it a personal you vs them problem. Ask for their help and buy in on other ways of doing things and working together. Get them to suggest ideas eg: a weekly meeting rather than daily.

You can also leverage your future aspirations, eg: in future I'd love to have more direct stakeholder contact, do you see a path to me doing this in future?

For a micromanager they need to feel in control, so whatever you do don't put forward ideas yourself - you need to try and get them to come up with the ideas so they feel it's them that's done it.

Pherian · 16/04/2026 20:07

PoliteEagle · 16/04/2026 10:11

Joined a new company recently as a manager. My boss is the head of the team. Currently there are 3 ppl in the team.
he is driving me crazy with his management style and I am not sure if I am overreacting?
He wants to have a call with every member of the team every morning where he asks what is on our to do list and then gives a tasks for a day and asks how we are getting on with tasks.
i just feel myself as a graduate not as an experienced professonal with many years of experience. I don’t feel like I have real ownership or responsibility for anything. After I completed my analysis I am not allowed to take it forward myself. He always himself emails the stakeholders. He states in his email who did the work, it is not like he is taking credit but still.
what to do? Is it normal? And I am just overreacting?

If your line manager is a lead in a project space - this is normal. What is your job.

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 17/04/2026 06:49

Wow. I think maybe a quick check in call (what are your priorities, anything you need support with) possibly fine. Normally I've had those calls just Monday morning though not every day. This doesn't seem like that, this seems like accounting for every second and every task.
I'd look for a new job. Is he a new leader? If not then I doubt this will change. I'd put up with it for a reasonable amount of time and get out quick. You could carefully try and raise it, but if this is the culture I think it's unlikely you'll have much luck. The fact they see you doing "everything we say" as a review makes me think it's a very specific culture that won't work for you. If it's a large company, have a glance around and make friends in other dept- is everyone doing this? If not maybe there's an option to move line managers (maybe not if it's a specific area). It's a good question to ask at interviews when they ask if you have questions (how do the team work together, how much autonomy does the role have)

PoliteEagle · 17/04/2026 11:00

Pherian · 16/04/2026 20:07

If your line manager is a lead in a project space - this is normal. What is your job.

corporate finance in industry

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Pherian · 17/04/2026 16:35

PoliteEagle · 16/04/2026 11:41

Just to add that we had a mid probation review and he said they are happy with me because I do everything they tell me to do

This right here would be a red flag. Do you have any input whatsoever on what and how you do what you need to do to complete your work ?

PoliteEagle · 17/04/2026 17:54

Pherian · 17/04/2026 16:35

This right here would be a red flag. Do you have any input whatsoever on what and how you do what you need to do to complete your work ?

I am trying to offer my views and opinions but most of them time he words it smth like this : " I would like you to do" that and in this way. Basically it resorts to him giving me instructions and the expectation is for me to follow them

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PoliteEagle · 24/04/2026 18:02

Tried to have a conversation earlier this week as advised by some posters above which i thought went well. Well apparently it did not as was called in the meeting today where they said it doesnt work for them and i received my 1 month notice...
it sucks even though i guess it is for better but job market is at horrible state

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