AIBU to ask our nanny to wear less perfume around the children?

[Panamanian]

We have a nanny who does after school/nursery care for my primary and nursery aged children. Recently she has started wearing a lot of perfume - to the extent that I can smell it in the house even after she has left and on my children when I put them to bed (even after a bath). I’m 8 weeks pregnant so appreciate I’m probably more sensitive than normal but DH has noticed it too.
Would I be unreasonable to gently ask her to tone it down? And if not, how would you raise it in a way that doesn’t upset her?

She's a caregiver to small children. It's very standard to be asked not to wear perfume. For the same reason nurses are not allowed to wear perfume at work.

Easy - tell her that the pregnancy is making you super nauseous around perfume smells…

Perfume gives me a terrible headache. I would have to tell her or end up with a migraine, if I couldn’t get rid of the smell quick enough.

Of course you can ask for something that’s significantly impacting your comfort to be changed, as an employer. Like I said up the thread, a friend of mine who’s violently affected by certain scents, who is the director of a company, has a no perfume/aftershave policy in the office.

As a qualified NNEB nursery nurse / nanny, we were told not to wear perfume, have hair tied back and short clean nails.
This was 30 years ago though, but I still follow this practise, as it makes total sense!

Wait , noone mentioned headaches

Just apologise for the fact that upon hiring her : You Forgot To Request/ Stipulate ' No Perfume' policy, as someone has allergy to Perfume.
N.B. All Healthcare workers undergo TRAINING, and during that training its advised to not wear any Perfume or strong deodorant at work.

YADNBU - any reasonable person would accept your request.

DH is allergic to chemical perfumes (the lynx effect!) and our life is so restricted! Apparently at least a third of the population has a direct impact as a result of these sprays and detergent chemicals! I’m so glad to hear NHS staff are having training regarding this issue. I’ve always thought people complaining of constant headaches should avoid these sprays rather than give up coffee and tea as is often suggested!

Absolutely use your pregnancy - it is far less likely to cause offence.

She shouldn't have to reveal her pregnancy if she hasn't already, its a perfectly reasonable request

Thanks all. I decided to take people’s advice and blame it on the pregnancy to soften the request. She was fine with it but said she couldn’t even smell it herself, which I find so hard to imagine as it’s so strong.

I think sometimes when you live in a cloud of it you get nose blind 🤷‍♀️ Like the people who don’t realise how “doggy” their house smells cause they smell it all the time