My sister's partner is divorced. He has a 13 year old son who lives one week with them, the next one with his mom and her second husband and half brother. My sister calls herself the boy's stepmom though they're not married, they bought the house in joint names about 4 years ago.
The partner's Mom gives her grandson £40 a month pocket money. My sister makes him hand it to her and makes him earn it by doing household tasks. I've told her she's controlling (she is in other ways too always has been) when she told me this at Easter. She said he needs to learn the value of money which I don't disagree with nor do I disagree with him doing things around the house especially with the useless men I read about on mumsnet.
I said that the money wasn't hers to dictate what happens to it though and she called me a bossy bitch which I thought pot kettle black. (She leaves her other half lists of jobs and there's an argument if he's not ticked them off). He is a doctor and works weird hours. He cooks, cleans, does DIY and isn't useless or lazy.
She's started argument after argument in front of me and other family members for "Bill not doing his jobs" and says I'm sticking my nose in because she didn't like my answer. Now she's sulking with me.