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Should those with severe autism have their own diagnosis. Thread 2

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Cubic · 14/04/2026 21:02

The first thread was full of debate of this emotive topic. Most posters engaged in good faith. Many of us want to have this discussion and that includes posters for and against.

It's worth saying that some posters may have autism so please bare that in mind as some posts could be mis interpretated or written in a way where it appears abrupt and that isn't the intention.

There was a notable derailment in the last thread and it is suggested that if/when this happens it is ignored.

The poll at writing was 91% in favor of a seperate diagnosis after over 1000 votes.

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SleeplessInWherever · 15/04/2026 15:28

SweetRedJam · 15/04/2026 15:22

I have a question; hope it’s ok to ask here.

I know that autism and LD can play a part in the presentation for some people. So are there people with profound autism who don’t have any LD?

Thanks in advance and hope that question isn’t offensive in any way.

ETA sorry I see others are discussing this already above.

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It’s usually a co-existence of autism and LD that means the term profound is used.

Where the debate differs is if it’s acceptable to refer to those people as profoundly autistic or if profoundly disabled is more accurate, as the LD isn’t autism in itself. Really, that’s just semantics IMO.

Personally, I would be happy for that co-existence to mean someone was labelled as profound, in whatever format “acceptable,” if it meant that the level of need was recognised and catered for effectively.

SweetRedJam · 15/04/2026 15:31

SleeplessInWherever · 15/04/2026 15:28

It’s usually a co-existence of autism and LD that means the term profound is used.

Where the debate differs is if it’s acceptable to refer to those people as profoundly autistic or if profoundly disabled is more accurate, as the LD isn’t autism in itself. Really, that’s just semantics IMO.

Personally, I would be happy for that co-existence to mean someone was labelled as profound, in whatever format “acceptable,” if it meant that the level of need was recognised and catered for effectively.

Thanks for answering. That makes sense.

Greenblue2 · 15/04/2026 15:33

TigerRag · 15/04/2026 14:42

And what if you don't fall into those near little boxes?

While categorisation is rarely perfect, it's at least more informative than lumping everyone together with no distinction. There could be basic levels used to provide a general overview, alongside more detailed medical reports for schools or others who require more depth. It works for other conditions. Having agreed upon terms to quickly give people a general idea of what to expect would be helpful, as the label can currently mean almost anything. At present, if someone says they or their child is autistic, it provides very little useful information because the diagnosis encompasses everyone from some of the most successful, high functioning people in the world to some of the most severely disabled who need 24 hour care, and everything in between. As I said on the other thread, we already classify many other conditions like cerebral palsy, learning disabilities, and hearing or visual impairments by levels of severity. Why is autism so different that people seem to object so much to the idea? Even if we don't distinguish between different levels of severity of autism, there'll still be a line drawn between people who have many traits of autism but not quite enough to get a diagnosis, and those who are very similar but have just enough traits to be diagnosed, and that will be imperfect too.

ChasingMoreSleep · 15/04/2026 15:53

Cubic · 15/04/2026 14:47

The restraint vs meds is a difficult choice. I thought meds were best for my son as it's not as traumatic as you say but i was speaking to a dad of a yp who had angleman, the yp sadly passed away during a general for a tooth extraction from complications. Everyone knows general's have risk but I think for most it gets weighed against the need. We're looking at it again. I'm not sure what we will decide.

That’s horrendous for the YP and their family.

It is a hard decision. And one where there isn’t a right answer. Neither is perfect. Both have risks. Both can be traumatic for DC and all involved. It also isn’t always one or the other even for the same individual - both can be necessary depending on the intervention/investigation.

Forthesteps · 15/04/2026 16:01

Velumental · 14/04/2026 22:03

Yes I think it should. For 2 reasons. I think the level of support required by those with around autism is very different to the level of support my son who has higher functioning autism requires. He's verbal, academically capable when well supported etc. however in neurotypical spaces he definitely stands out as different. He couldn't cope with a very minor issue today and ended up whimpering under a table in a venue over it. He's not a toddler, he's too big to easily haul out from under a table. Yet he couldn't, genuinely couldn't, get himself under control to get himself out.

I feel like neither are served by having a single diagnosis, I feel like a fraud if I state my son is autistic because I feel I need to be clear he can talk. Communicate, access mainstream school etc. because it feels fraudulent that someone may think I'm the position of a friend with a non verbal 5 yr old who cannot follow 2 step instructions and will likely never gain independence. I'm tired, she's exhausted, I'm often running on 1 frayed nerve her last never has snapped entirely. I CAN send my son to a small number of childcare options that can support his needs, she has no childcare options out with respite services and an sen school.

That said I also have a neurotypical child, she's 4, parenting her is an actual wall in the park, she has wee issues here and there but largely she sleeps, eats, can manage her emotions age appropriately, if something causes an upset she can be brought back to baseline fairly predictably, she hasn't been hospitalised regularly for seizures, she can be left to do a craft activity while I got to the loo and not try abscond the house as my son would have done at 4. Even when upset she's very unlikely to run into the road. She tells me she's hungry, doesn't wait until she's angry and upset l, so many reasons that parenting a neurotypical child is as different from parenting my son as parenting my friends profoundly autistic child is from parenting my lower support needs son.

You absolutely should not feel a fraud. If he's autistic he's autistic. Just like NT people they are all individuals with individual needs.
My son now holds down a job, lives independently and travels abroad ( when he's got the money!). At 5 he started in special education still in nappies and liable to spend the morning looking for things to sweep off surfaces or, if liquid, pour on the floor. HFA or not?

Cubic · 25/04/2026 14:22

This paper is currently not behind a paywall.

I found quite interesting and it cover a lot of what we discussed on this and the previous thread inc genetics, pregnancy and the removal of Aspergers, inc profound etc. It's worth a read for anyone with an interest.

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/the-british-journal-of-psychiatry/article/from-autism-to-the-plural-autisms-evidence-from-differing-aetiologies-developmental-trajectories-and-symptom-intensity-combinations/4D9B0B35DCF03FDBA4E001F7DC9B02D6?fbclid=Iwb21leARZnlVjbGNrBFmeMGV4dG4DYWVtAjExAHNydGMGYXBwX2lkDDM1MDY4NTUzMTcyOAABHrQ8U9MKmQ7Dh71gORoZrQu9FlZmWmBzNgiKMGlkdIVYGXwYPU89sEkG9Z-S_aem_D4xydtt2NLzC9vOlJwT7UA&utm_id=97758_v0_s00_e0_tv2_a1demo0eb4c038

From autism to the plural ‘autisms’: evidence from differing aetiologies, developmental trajectories and symptom intensity combinations | The British Journal of Psychiatry | Cambridge Core

From autism to the plural ‘autisms’: evidence from differing aetiologies, developmental trajectories and symptom intensity combinations - Volume 227 Issue 1

https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/the-british-journal-of-psychiatry/article/from-autism-to-the-plural-autisms-evidence-from-differing-aetiologies-developmental-trajectories-and-symptom-intensity-combinations/4D9B0B35DCF03FDBA4E001F7DC9B02D6?fbclid=Iwb21leARZnlVjbGNrBFmeMGV4dG4DYWVtAjExAHNydGMGYXBwX2lkDDM1MDY4NTUzMTcyOAABHrQ8U9MKmQ7Dh71gORoZrQu9FlZmWmBzNgiKMGlkdIVYGXwYPU89sEkG9Z-S_aem_D4xydtt2NLzC9vOlJwT7UA

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