Not cutting up DS’ grapes?

[moryn]

I was approached by a member of staff at pick up today, to tell me that the kitchen staff expressed concerns that DS’ grapes were whole and not cut up.

He’s 7.5. He chews properly, sits still to eat etc.

I was under the impression that the guidance is for children aged 5 and below.

AIBU here?

Yes i think yabu. Sat at your calm dining room table is very different to sat eating at school at lunch tome in a chaotic dining hall.

And, just to put the cutting up grapes task into perspective, how difficult is it to do, a task that takes under one minute, compared with the possible outcome of not doing so.

7 1/2 doesn't need grapes cut up. Fucking hell, no wonder kids are growing up with the world knocking them on their arse.

I'd probably stop.the grapes to shut the school up. Apparently were supposed to wipe their bums until comp.

They can be so distracted at school and behave in a very silly way over lunch, even if they are an angel at home.

I cut them up for in their school lunch, but not at home. Just do it.

My son is 13 and I’d still cut them 🤣 they are so easy to choke on!

And if they are male, well into their 40’s.

if school have asked you to then what’s the issue? Grapes are lovely but they are also dangerous.

We ask all our KS1 parents to cut them up if they send them in.

I cut up my mum’s. She is 82.

This is insane!! Better watch they don’t choke on their cotton wool also…

A friend’s 7 year old dd choked to death on a grape. It’s always made me nervous watching anyone eat grapes now.

Are they concerned about the kids sharing/swapping snacks with younger children maybe?

A 7 and a half year year old child should be able to eat grapes safely. When do you think he should be allowed to eat grapes without them being cut up?
OP I don't think you are being unreasonable at all.

Just don’t send grapes to school , frankly it’s ridiculous

I thought this was all bollocks until I did a first aid course with a paramedic who explained why choking with grapes is so problematic and that it was pretty common.

If your children frequently eat grapes and have done for years, and you've seen them in all sorts of different moods eating grapes perfectly well, and they manage all sorts of food well in general, then yanbu. My DC have all been perfectly competent grape eaters by seven.

I cut all grapes in half here if I’m serving them, the oldest kids will moan but usually can’t be bothered to get them themselves so end up with them in half.
Cant remember exactly where to link it but I saw an x-ray once of a child that had a grape stuck in the oesophagus, probably as part of a first aid course as used to work in a school.
Children don’t sit still on the hall, I remember having to do back blows on a year 5 child that has been messing around whilst eating a sandwich and had stated to choke.

A grape can choke anyone of any age due to the size and shape. They’re trying to protect the children and it’s easy to cut grapes up so just do it or don’t send them.

Remember that kids aren’t always as sensible at school when messing around with friends as they are sitting nicely at home. There is also the chance that another child eats your child’s lunch. Although they’re told not to, kids share and swap items from their lunch box.

This is an easy thing to do so no need to make a problem out of it,

Fgs, how do kids learn to eat and swallow food on Planet Mumsnet??
Cutting up grapes for under 5's I get that but over that age, most kids are eating larger things and managing to chew and swallow properly, medical problems aside.
When did it all get so stupid?
Flame away, I'm not bothered. No doubt every other person knows some kid over the age of 6 who has choked on a 1/2 a grape. Sit down and eat, don't walk / run around cut the risks to start with.
The simple answer is if you are THAT worried why give them grapes in the first place? Pieces of fruit, orange, in particular can cause choking but so can other things. Where do you draw the line?

Grape skins are the perfect texture to stick in your throat. & also about the same size as a child’s windpipe. Which is why when they do get stuck it’s so much harder to unblock the persons airway (I work with doctors & paramedics who all say this) every time we have to redo our defibrillator training we cover choking. There’s a few X-ray’s about of how “perfectly” they sit in a windpipe. So while yes it does seem dramatic & silly to do it, if spending an extra 60 seconds cutting up grapes is enough to potentially save your child’s life, why wouldn’t you?

Cut them up. My friend is a Dr and she explained how enormously difficult is is if anyone chokes on a grape- essentially if you do choke, your instinct is to gasp for breath which then pulls the grape down and it forms a perfect airblock- which is almost impossible to shift with the traditional banging on the back etc. The body ends up trying to put it further down. When they were older, she taught her children to just bite them and break the skin before they put them into their mouth; so that if they did get distracted etc, they wouldn't be able to form the perfect block.
She said even in hospital with the correct tools, it's really hard to help.

I with you @Holesinmesocks . I have never cut a grape in my life and my kids are in their twenties. Not a single grape was cut for me either growing up. I have only heard of this on MN. We just sat at the table and ate whatever was there.

Sympathy for the school staff who have to deal with parents who probably have not been as diligent as the OP in how they teach children about eating food. They are in a no-win situation. It does not help that some people will sue or threaten a school with Ofsted or something else.

Me too.

No one in this house eats grapes that aren’t cut, regardless of how old they are.

A child in a cafe near us died choking on a grape when a paramedic was in attendance. Grapes are extremely difficult to remove once lodged due to their skin.

I was thinking about this and eating grapes as a child years before cutting them became a thing.

We grew grapes in a greenhouse and I'd pick them freely, without supervision. It was a non-issue because they were as seedy as hell so from being very young, I learned how to carefully squish them with my teeth straight away and tease out the seeds with my tounge otherwise it was a not entirely pleasant gritty, seedy pulp.

It's become an issue since seedless grapes became the default.

I wonder if it also ties in with diets generally becoming a bit softer and many children not being so used to chewing food effectively.

Grapes are an issue because of their size , shape & texture. Most food can be fairly easily dislodged if someone chokes, grapes generally cannot & the person dies.

To be fair older people can often choke on food as their swallowing deteriorates. I looked after an elderly man who choked on a bacon sandwich years ago.