AIBU to change birthday trip flights so we do not miss sports day

[Pigwig22]

My husband and I are planning a trip away for our joint fortieth birthdays, we’ve not been abroad alone together since having kids (we didn’t make it for our 10th wedding anniversary three years ago as kids felt too young either so we are really looking forward to this).

We have booked flights and arranged childcare and I’ve just been sent dates by school and we will miss our youngest child’s sports day. I feel horrendously guilty about this. I just looked at if we could change our flights and it would be over £350 (about the same as the original cost…) and I would need to rearrange all the childcare as we would have to go on different days due to flight / sports day timings.

I still want to do it as I’ve never missed a sports day or thing like this before and I feel so guilty. My husband thinks I’m nuts to consider it.

There is no cost to change accommodation.

What’s the verdict AIBU to want to change our flights?

Who's having the kids, could they go in your place? Grandparents?

For sports day I wouldn’t rearrange. Can you get a grandparent to go and watch or ask his friends mum to cheer for him.

What does your husband Think?!

surely this is up to you both - and what a bunch of random anonymous mumsnetters think is utterly irrelevant?

Who’s looking after them? If granny and grandad etc can’t they go to sports day.

honestly think you’re crazy or made of money to change flights at such a cost.

they can send you a pic and you can text them a big thumbs up well done.

it’s primary sports day - not their debut at the olympics!

Your kid won't even remember by next week

I missed a few sports days, and I have zero regret! The majority of them are now done in teams with no winners or losers. A complete waste of time.

DH and I have had to miss occasional things like this due to work (and once a hospital stay!). We do go to most things, and when we can’t we always make sure DC know who is watching them/cheering for them so they can look out for that person and they seem quite happy with it.

I missed a sports day due to work. My daughter didn't mind at all.
I do think yabu

Your husband is right. Lots of parents miss sports day due to work so you won't be the only parent not there its just one of them things.

Apileofbroc - you might’ve missed the line where Op said her husband thinks she’s nuts

and you might’ve also missed the point of AIBU threads….😂

I wouldn’t rearrange but I’d make sure someone was there to watch them. That’s all the kids care about, is having someone present to cheer them on.

I’d make sure someone was there to watch the sports day, but doesn’t have to be you. Could a grandparent go instead? It depends on the child, but my dd would definitely remember someone not being there for her and would be very upset about it.

I'm with your husband, sports day isn't really important is it!

I went to most sports days because I was around, DH went to a couple of he could get the afternoon off work. Quite often it was grandparents coming to watch. I could have happily not gone.

I have known a few sports days to be rearranged at the last minute because it's too wet - or more recently - far too hot.

I wouldn't change the flights for a sports day because you will be really pee'd off if it then got rearranged.

Since when did husbands get to dictate everything?

I think if you've got childcare you're happy to leave DC with for 24hrs a day, you should be happy for them to do sports day.

Are yiu sure youre "ready" for the trip? What will you do if something important happens?

Team DH.

Stop the guilt and enjoy your much needed trip.

It is okay to put yourself first on occasion and its only sports day. I doubt that your child will care too much that you won't be there.

Jeez. I think I went to one sports day and husband never attended at all. My son was not emotionally scarred.

So this is looking pretty unanimous lol. You’re right I need to check my crazy mum guilt and have a good time 🤪

I’ve checked and grandparents can go 👍