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To think it this was a horrid thing for my friend to say?

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cadburyegg · 13/04/2026 21:55

I have a friend who also has 2 boys except hers are younger than mine, 7 and 4, the 4 year old due to start school in September. We got talking about the cost of childcare and I asked her if the funded hours were helpful. She said financially it was better but she noticed a real difference in the children accessing the nurseries her kids have used. She basically said the funding opened up places that lower income families couldn’t afford and that all the nursery staff were always busy with the badly behaved kids and no time for her child. She said that her 4yo started coming home saying things her 7yo never did at that age and she was (I quote) “fed up of all the shit kids taking up places where before they’d never be able to afford to go”. Basically she wants her kids to only mix with other kids like them. i didn’t think much of it at the time cos we were in a car in a hurry to get home but now i can’t stop thinking about it, im quite shocked by her attitude. but maybe i am overreacting and it was just a silly off the cuff comment?

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Sadworld23 · 15/04/2026 19:23

Katflapkit · 13/04/2026 22:40

I'm on the fence with this one. We may not think all the time but it will have crossed our minds once or twice.

Yes same here, but i thought it through and I think the issue is it puts nursery staff under pressure due to underfundung of placement.

Ours was managing ok but then the palava of not having top up fees sent it spiralling a bit. As parents get better access to funded childcare the influx should be less dramatic.

Gossipisgood · 21/04/2026 13:01

She's a plastic snob. She's happy to use the funding but doesn't think those who actually need it should use it because it means her kid will have to mix with their kids. She's in for a shock when her precious angel starts school where kids from all over mix & are in the same class.

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