...to plan a solo holiday to get away from it all?

[thetapeoflove]

I work in a school so I have the benefit and the curse of school holiday times.

My partner does not like to travel. The last short UK holiday we planned, he ended up bailing on the morning of, because he got overwhelmed and anxious. I went on my own instead, which he was shocked by, but I wasn't going to let it go to waste. I've missed out on loads of stuff previously because he's changed his mind.

My parents want me to accompany them this summer on a kind of touring trip round places they used to live. They are both not in great health and need care. I am the nearest child, so I do 90% of the day to day stuff as it is.

I feel like going with my parents on this tour will break me. My mum is particularly difficult to be around for longer periods and nothing will be good enough for her. Dad gets tetchy and is quite rude to hotel workers/ waiting staff etc.

I feel like just booking myself onto some adults-only, sunny, all-inclusive break by myself and saying they can all just sort themselves out.

AIBU?

Have a fabulous solo.holiday and you'll come back refreshed and better able to deal.with the challenging people in your life

Book the solo trip. Never feel guilty for meeting your own needs.

Oh yes. Please do.

Do it.

Do it!!!!!

I go away by myself. Honestly it’s great. First time I was a bit worried but it’s great.

Get it booked, go, have an amazing time, then come back here and tell us all about it 🙏🏻💕

It's not even a question!

I did this and had a
grest time! I went to the canaries. My friend went, same reasons as you, to Morocco, she joined a group online of other single travellers an met up with a few of them when she was away so you could search for this type of thing!

Just book it already and don’t give it a singe second though: sometimes you do need to prioritise yourself and your needs.

Thanks everyone!!

Now, I need some ideas on where?? @Octavia64 , any suggestions?

I haven't ever been on that kind of holiday before- I usually do city breaks because that's what my partner used to be able to manage. I want to do NOTHING, just read and relax and swim.

Your parents have had all their life to do this trip by themselves, put yourself first for once and book your solo holiday.

@thetapeoflove absolutely do this. There are sooo many wonderful adult-only all inclusive holidays to choose from.

Search on TUI.

If you want complete luxury, use Kenwood Travel.

A cruise could be good. You can ask to be sat with other singles and have some social time.

I began by travelling out to stay with friends in Morocco before it became a mass tourist destination (1960s) so I got used to travelling around the country on my own. I found package holidays unsatisfactory. The few I have ever been on I simply used the hotel as a base and the other holidaymakers never saw me. (Some of them thought I had been abducted) hahahah. Eventually I began travelling solo and independently to countries like Iran, Syria and Lebanon which are impossible to visit nowadays. Each time I made a trip it got easier. Travelling solo can be tough because there is no one to share the responsibility of watching the bags, holding a place in queues and so on. You need to organize it like a military operation when you travel independently without the aid of a company. However I loved the freedom and the sense of achievement.

@Friendlygingercat , that sounds incredible for you.

I'm definitely an introverted wallflower, so something very simple and non-adventurous where I can really just relax is the vibe I'm going for. I'm looking at the adults-only places on Tui now.

Cruise is a great idea. As theres so many places to get food -buffet, dining rooms, pool side and more lots of people just get something when the mood takes so it’s never awkward.
Norwegian Cruise Line has a special area just for singles with cheaper cabins. Otherwise price may be a factor.

I’ve done a few places solo but Gran Canaria was my favourite. Cheap ( TUI), cheap once there, stunning beaches, all the hotels have pools and the weather is brilliant ( I did October half term).

@thetapeoflove
Do it!
Im going away by myself, I'm calling it a mental health break, I'm going to Greece but an area I'm familiar so I'm not too uncomfortable.
Dp goes away for a week every year with his two pals, hes quite shocked that I've decided to go by myself.
Im feeling very Shirley Valentine 😉

Definitely do it! You’re not answerable to any of them.

Why do your parents think that trip would be in any way appealing to you?

Do your complete relaxation trip and don’t look back!

I love solo travel and adventure. But in your shoes (budget and time of year dependent) I’d head to a Greek island and find a spot on the edge of a pretty village with views, pool and an easy potter to tavernas and shops. Bliss. And take far too many books.

Do it! But brace yourself for the single supplements!

@thetapeoflove definitely do it!

I did similar last year and went to Oman in February half term (I used to live there many years ago and have a friend there who I spent two days with) but in your shoes I agree with a Greek island? Kefalonia?

I’m on holiday on my own, I love it

im part of a group online that do solo holidays and many people are in couples as well as divorced or list their spouse and many travel alone as their do doesn’t travel

just book something you want to do

in happy cycling away solo heading for France 🇫🇷

Exodus travel company give you a choice, single supplement or share a twin. But on the last holiday I was on I didn’t pay and it was an odd number so I got my own room. They are worth looking at if you want more than a beach holiday

Absolutely do it @thetapeoflove . Book the best holiday you can afford and have a wonderful time.

I went with Friendship Travel, a small independent travel company. They are excellent. I’ve had five holidays with them. Going on your own is very liberating, you only have yourself to please.