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Trip of a lifetime, AIBU to go

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Onegiantpupil · 13/04/2026 16:24

I’ve an opportunity to go on a trip of a lifetime abroad next year. It will be for just under 2 weeks. It will involve flying long haul to another continent and hiking with a guided group. Not Everest or anything as technical or dangerous as that but think beautiful scenery and occasionally higher altitude than what I’m used to.

DH and I have a DS who will be 6 at the time of the trip. DH is happy for me to go and our parents will help out a bit just so he’s not having to use all his annual leave and he can keep some aside for school holidays.

I would love to go but my brain is going into overdrive and I’m having intrusive thoughts. Mainly around whether this would be unfair on my DS who is a little behind in terms of development eg communication and being able to explain situations to him. He is being referred by the school for an EHCP for additional support. He is a happy and very easy going boy but the longest either I or DH have been away from DS is 4 days. I also worry about if something happens to me eg illness/injury/plane crash. I tell myself that I could just as easily walk down the road and get hit by a bus but it still doesn’t sit any easier with me.

I know I am an overthinker but I feel guilty about going. AIBU to go?

OP posts:
Onegiantpupil · 14/04/2026 12:46

@Riapia there isn’t an issue with DH’s parenting. The feelings are more around DS, how he will feel with me being away from him for 2 weeks. Not a worry about DH’s parenting.

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LauraJaneGrace · 14/04/2026 12:50

Onegiantpupil · 14/04/2026 12:46

@Riapia there isn’t an issue with DH’s parenting. The feelings are more around DS, how he will feel with me being away from him for 2 weeks. Not a worry about DH’s parenting.

Go.

Think of all the wonderful pictures to show him and stories to tell him when you get back. You'll be inspiring him with your adventures !

deserthighway · 14/04/2026 12:52

Will you DH and DS also have a holiday next year??

Obeseandashamed · 14/04/2026 13:05

Voted YABU for overthinking it. Have an amazing time and enjoy it!! You deserve it and your family and husband will be watching your child so it’s not like you’re neglecting him.

Onegiantpupil · 14/04/2026 14:05

deserthighway · 14/04/2026 12:52

Will you DH and DS also have a holiday next year??

We will yeah 😊

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LughLongArm · 14/04/2026 14:08

You’re unreasonable to even consider not going!

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