AIBU to wonder if my seven-year-old’s comment is unusual?

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Dd was chatting away the other day about how her best friend at school said they could be sisters. Dd said she’d like to be, but wouldn’t want to live in their house as i’m her mummy and she couldn’t survive without me. She went on to say ‘Well, daddy would be there, but I wouldn’t survive without you’ I told her that of course she would as she has Daddy, Grandma and Grandad, Auntie x and so and so, so she will always have someone to look after her.

She’s 7, is this odd?

I think you’re over thinking it, she just means you do all the house chores. Cooking, cleaning etc making sure she’s clean clothes. Not she’d literally die.

She just means you’re her mum, most children would say that (and she might say the same about her dad to him!!😉)

Not really. It’s a 7yo’s way of expressing her extreme connection to you, her mother. It’s quite a normal thing for that age to be more attached to your mother. The articulation of it isn’t unusual either, seems age appropriate to me. What do you think it weird about it?

i really wouldn't pay too much attention to that type of comment made by a 7 year old.

I would assume someone has said in her earshot that she/the family wouldn't survive without you holding it all together. Perhaps they think your DH could step up more!

It just seemed strange, not terminology she’d normally use!

I would take it as a compliment....i think its odd you think it's odd tbh...could you really imagine how you would survive if someone you loved more than anyone in the world (which i'm guessing she does you as for most children that person is their mum) died or disappeared for ever?

This is lovely OP. 😍Just give it a few years and she'll be screaming 'I hate you' at the top of her lungs. 😂Enjoy this lovely age.

Of course, but she didn’t say it in a deep or upset way, more matter of fact, like she needed me for her survival

She’s said that a couple of times too tbh 😂

This is completely normal.

I really dislike this. Why would she be screaming that she hates her mum? I never did, my kids never did. Neither did siblings or most of my cousins. Stop making it normal to expect this awful behaviour

Oh. Cross post. Fair enough then, at 7 she’s screamed she hates you?

I thought you meant the "Daddy would be there" as in the other house with out you

It's probably more 'normal' than what my dd said to me when she was about 6: "Mummy, when you die, I want them to put me in the hole with you." 🥹

At that age mummy is everything

My dd is 16 and still says this. She just means that she couldn't imagine life without going on without me. I think it's pretty normal if you have a close relationship with your mum to not be able to imagine surviving the loss?

That's what i thought you meant too! That if she lived at her friends house she wouldn't get to see you, but she would still get to see her dad....

I think that if anything about her comment is odd, it's that she thinks her Dad would be living at friend's house with her but Mum wouldn't be there.

OP 7 yr olds can be quite deep thinkers in their way. I once was talking to a group of 7yr old girls about a fire depicted on 'Coronation Street'. I said that all the characters were actors and when filming had finished, everyone walked away unharmed One of them asked "Does the baby know it's a actor?"

My 10 yo has said it a few of times when he has been extremely upset with me but is always very apologetic afterwards. He has a very short temper unfortunately. Lots of other fantastic traits though and very loving most of the time so rough with the smooth. 😂

Not screamed it no, but been upset and said it, obviously doesn’t mean it and learning to control emotions. I remember saying it to mine too

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Of course, It just surprised me she said it at this age that’s all

No she didn’t think that 😂 I think that had just moved onto a separate topic of me not being around, but she’d have Daddy