Non molestation order?

[Shootingstar1111]

My ex and I split 3 years ago. Since then he’s been an absolute nightmare. I went to the police about him in September last year as he just would not leave me alone, constant calls and messages etc and they were treating it as harassment and stalking. He then seemed to stop so nothing happened.
He is extremely controlling by nature, he insists on speaking to our son via FaceTime 4-5 times a day when he’s with me, if I don’t comply he says I’m restricting his access. Recently he has refused to pay any maintenance so I’ve approached CMS, because of this he now keeps threatening to try and get our son full time.
Yesterday I was at a wedding and son stayed at my mums for the day/night. (It was meant to be exs weekend but he chose to go to the football instead) he spoke to son twice in the morning then told me to make sure my mum called him later so he could FaceTime him again. My mum said no, she thinks it’s ridiculous that he does this and there was no need.
Today I’ve had a drunken call over FaceTime where he told our son (6) that he was going to take him away from me forever. He told him it’s my fault that he doesn’t have a proper family anymore. I ended the call asap and blocked him. He has since then tried calling my mum and then gave my sister a load of abuse too.
Im sick of the threats, I’m sick of feeling that if I don’t do as he says then he will take my son away.

Do you think I would be granted a non Molestation order on these grounds? The last thing I want is to apply for one to not get one and fuel him even more

You should continue to go through CMS for maintenance and you should absolutely report his behaviour to the police.

I don’t have any experience / advice on the Non-mol. I’m sure the police would advise you and/or consider paying for an hour with a solicitor who specialises in criminal law.

You may get a non mol given the previous investigations but it may not be enough. You definitely have enough to withhold contact though as clearly there is evidence his behaviour could pose a risk to your DS in terms of emotional harm. I would self refer to social services for advice on how to manage this and see if they agree he should go to court for contact given his behaviour. It may make him escalate in the short term which may ensure you get your non mol but more importantly protects your son.

The fact that it’s with the police is a good starting point op. Have you spoken to https://www.ncdv.org.uk/ - that’s who I went with.

The NCDV will be able to support you to apply for a non molestation order. They have an app and you can keep track of the order. Take any evidence of threats towards you or your family to the police. Good luck, I know how stressful all of this can be, reach out to your local domestic abuse charity for support. X

You also need to refuse to have him FaceTime or call your DC so often. He can take you to court for CAO to include his contact time and the phone calls.

Its not fair on your DC to have him demanding all those calls etc.

Get a bloody good solicitor.