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Those with severe autism need their own diagnosis

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Cubic · 12/04/2026 20:37

Ok so, I'm being brave and putting my head above the wall. This is a long one as it's an emotive topic.

The autism diagnosis changed in the dsm (American diagnostic manual) in 2013, than hit the UK too and our diagnosis changed to include people who would have been diagnosed previously with other conditions; Aspergers, childhood disingenerative dissorder, retts and pdd nos. Aspergers had links to the nazis, there were concerns that the other conditions wasn't taken as being as serious/ a disability, funding wasn't aimed at those who were seen as "higher functioning".

The dsm gave levels 1-3 depending on support needs. Some people fluctuate and some just stay at level 3 all the time.

Until this point autism was seen as a severe disability. Those with the diagnosis were seen as being disabled, this wasn't questioned.

The diagnosis changes linked with the neurodisability movement and self diagnosis has meant that those with the most severe impairments are now not as catered for. Many of those with the most needs lack the ability to communicate and therefore can't advocate for themselves. Their carers are exhausted too.

Those who would be seen as more able can suffer with severe mental health issues that aren't always treated due to them having the autism diagnosis.

Profound autism is being tabled as a way to seperate the diagnosis so that those who have extremely limited communication, low iq and require constant life long care etc due to their autism not mental health can have seperate diagnosis.

This is opposed by many of those who are more able. One of the reasons given is that their autism would be seen as "mild autism" and support maybe withdrawn.

I support the profound autism diagnosis. I think there is a world of difference between those maybe diagnosed later in life, who work and have family and friends to those who require support in every area of their life for their full life (all the time, not fluctuating), with no communication who can't access our world.

This doesn't mean I don't recognise the needs of those who aren't profound.

IABU for support a seperate diagnosid
IANBU for wanting a seperate diagnosis for those with severe/ profound autism.

  • knowing how these threads can go, I may not reply to every question, statement or post.

** I'm aware that terms like high/ low functioning aren't supported by many of those who are able to communicate well.

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Youtookthebrightmoon · 14/04/2026 20:38

ProjectHailMary · 14/04/2026 20:25

They clearly don’t if they don’t even understand what medical condition is causing which parts of their disablement! It’s actually extremely concerning as you’d think this would be the parents’ first priority in this situation: to ensure that all medical conditions of the child had been diagnosed, obviously not be fobbed off with an explanation that autism was the cause of some disablements that it cannot possibly cause, and find out what is so that they could access specialists in that area and ensure the best possible support and interventions were put in place.

The very last thing a responsible parent would be doing in that situation would be trying to blame all of their child’s difficulties on one diagnosed condition when it quite clearly couldn’t possibly be the cause of many of the observed issues because that medical condition on its own does not cause those effects.

This would be like me having a child with breathing difficulties and fits and then stating that because they were diagnosed with asthma this must be the cause of the fits, anybody who doesn’t have fits doesn’t really have asthma, my child has “profound asthma”, that all of the people who have been diagnosed with asthma and don’t have fits don’t have “proper asthma” and spending my time on the internet having a go at anyone with asthma who doesn’t also have fits.

Or, I could be a rational human being and look up the medical research and realise that fits aren’t a symptom of asthma, and realise that my child may well have asthma and also another health condition at the same time that is causing the fits, such as epilepsy.

This thread is utterly ridiculous and the more that people have tried to point out the science and medical research and evidenced facts that would actually mean the parents of these profoundly disabled children might have more chance of helping their children and pushing for research into the actual conditions causing their extreme disabilities, better support, etc. the more hostile and unpleasant they have become.

Unfortunately: “the truth doesn’t care about our needs or wants. It doesn’t care about our governments, our ideologies, our religions. It will lie in wait for all time.”

Science and fact is the only way to a better future.

Edited

Autism is a set of behaviours, no doubt caused by a variety of medical reasons. Science is nowhere near to untangling all the possible genetic causes. Most parents will never know why exactly their child has autism. The co-morbid conditions cannot be untangled from autism easily either. For example, my DS has serious MH conditions directly caused by the way his autistic mind works. You cannot separate out the conditions.

Scattery · 14/04/2026 20:53

Cubic · 14/04/2026 20:29

I'll start another thread when this one ends with the preface that there are posters who are trying to derail the thread and being aggresive. I'll suggest ignoring them.

I'll point out that some poster are autistic themselves and because of that may not understand or mis understand some posts.

Oh. Wow.

I was starting to give you the benefit of the doubt in starting this thread, despite you saying in your OP that changes linked with the "neurodisability movement and self diagnosis has meant that those with the most severe impairments are now not as catered for."

I was hoping that people would stop viewing disability as a zero sum game. That a rising tide lifts all boats, and if we push for more accommodations and support, we'll all benefit, including carers.

But this post? This is nasty and patronising. I'm actually gobsmacked.

Now and then I start to believe the world might become a more accepting place, and then I run across a post like this.

Never mind. I'm autistic. So I might "not understand".

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Elbone · 14/04/2026 21:10

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 14/04/2026 20:19

Telling autistic adults they are appropriating diagnosis that belong to profoundly disabled people who are also autistic is pretty vile imo.

I said it might be possible that parents of profoundly autistic children feel pushed out of the diagnosis and that it had been appropriated.
A parent of a profoundly autistic child confirmed that sometimes it did feel that way.

But, again, you’re perfectly within your rights to rights to disagree with me and even to think I’m “vile”

Noras · 14/04/2026 21:21

Cubic · 14/04/2026 19:43

Trying to bring the thread back to where it was.

I had a pre arranged c section. I was ill throughout the pregnancy and I had to spend time in hospital on a drip. I bled throughout too.

Ds had normal development until 18 months when he regressed. It was very sudden and he lost the majority of his skills to that date.

Yes I have a loss of liquor - was mean for dive bed rest but could not and then slightly early and very fast birth with CMV trace found in sons blood 1 month post partum so suspected to have been there during pregnancy

JustCabbaggeLooking · 14/04/2026 21:57

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 14/04/2026 20:19

Telling autistic adults they are appropriating diagnosis that belong to profoundly disabled people who are also autistic is pretty vile imo.

I'd agree with you if that was what I thought was being said.
But I don't think it is.
I'd also question the determination of some posters who, knowing autism is now defined as being on a spectrum,
seem determined to opine that every person with autism has the same difficulties as themselves and if the manifestation of autism isn't the same as their's, then it's because of some 'other' syndrome/congenital abnormality that the parents/Drs/Science haven't bothered to identify.

Learning Disabilities and Autism have a clear, recognised and documented link.
Also, the seeming certainty of pp that autism is purely genetic is nonsense.
No such proof exists.
That is a scientific fact.

JustCabbaggeLooking · 14/04/2026 22:02

Although, for clarity, I will add that my son does have chromosomal abnormalites. So for him it's an extra layer of complexity.
However, it's the one thing that defines him the most.
It's the one part of him that's non-negotiable.
I have to handle his autism right or nothing else works.
Solidarity to all who struggle✊

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 14/04/2026 22:16

@JustCabbaggeLooking There were multiple comments from posters here aimed at autistic posters telling them they weren't autistic enough - not verbatim. The appropriation comment is offensive and discriminatory. All of these threads end up the same way, with autistic MNs being abused.

JustCabbaggeLooking · 14/04/2026 22:24

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 14/04/2026 22:16

@JustCabbaggeLooking There were multiple comments from posters here aimed at autistic posters telling them they weren't autistic enough - not verbatim. The appropriation comment is offensive and discriminatory. All of these threads end up the same way, with autistic MNs being abused.

I wouldn't defend any posts like that, please grab and post of someone saying that, if you can.
tbf, if it's the poster I think you're referring to, she was, for example, suggesting that people teach their children BSL but I honestly don't recall anyone saying she 'wasn't autistic' enough. Or being rude.
Perhaps this is another example of determination that everyone's autism is the same as one's own?

Youtookthebrightmoon · 14/04/2026 22:38

Also, the seeming certainty of pp that autism is purely genetic is nonsense.

At a population level, it’s highly genetic.
Not purely genetic.

JustCabbaggeLooking · 14/04/2026 22:53

Youtookthebrightmoon · 14/04/2026 22:38

Also, the seeming certainty of pp that autism is purely genetic is nonsense.

At a population level, it’s highly genetic.
Not purely genetic.

There's the rub.

Polishmamaa · 14/04/2026 23:07

@ProjectHailMary please can you share all your sources for these scientific and medical facts? We all need to educate our doctors and health professionals who have misdiagnosed so many of our children.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 14/04/2026 23:18

JustCabbaggeLooking · 14/04/2026 22:24

I wouldn't defend any posts like that, please grab and post of someone saying that, if you can.
tbf, if it's the poster I think you're referring to, she was, for example, suggesting that people teach their children BSL but I honestly don't recall anyone saying she 'wasn't autistic' enough. Or being rude.
Perhaps this is another example of determination that everyone's autism is the same as one's own?

Not the posted you asked, but I will paste the conversation points.

Those with severe autism need their own diagnosis
Those with severe autism need their own diagnosis
Elbone · 14/04/2026 23:23

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 14/04/2026 23:18

Not the posted you asked, but I will paste the conversation points.

That’s exactly what I said I’d put.
The poster said maybe those with more severe needs should find a new diagnosis and I asked why should they have to? Why should it not be those with less severe needs.
They queried that and I hypothesised on how parents of children with profound autism might feel about being pushed out of their own diagnosis.

Elbone · 14/04/2026 23:26

Elbone · 14/04/2026 23:23

That’s exactly what I said I’d put.
The poster said maybe those with more severe needs should find a new diagnosis and I asked why should they have to? Why should it not be those with less severe needs.
They queried that and I hypothesised on how parents of children with profound autism might feel about being pushed out of their own diagnosis.

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@Jimmyneutronsforehead

Note where that poster said “maybe they aren’t autistic” about profoundly autistic children/ adults…

Newnameagainn · 14/04/2026 23:41

Cubic · 14/04/2026 20:25

I do think that there is something in the severity of needs being linked to early diagnosis. My son was diagnosed very early too. I think this makes sense too as the more obvious the easier it is to see as opposed to those facing mental health problems or who develop normally and realise the differences later.

I actually agree with you on this to an extent.

However I think you are overlooking examples like my son in the middle of the spectrum. On an NHS waiting list for years after nursery and speech therapy basically picked up on the fact he was probably autistic. Diagnosed finally after being in primary school a few years and getting to the top of the list.
His cousin was diagnosed with autism much younger and faster with very obvious development delays and a profound disability, so i'd agree the age of diagnosis reflects severity of disability in our experience.
You just seem to be focused on children either having a profound disability vs adults with mental health problems seeking a diagnosis later in life. My son falls into neither of these boxes.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 14/04/2026 23:47

Elbone · 14/04/2026 23:26

@Jimmyneutronsforehead

Note where that poster said “maybe they aren’t autistic” about profoundly autistic children/ adults…

My personal emphasis was the OP saying it is appropriation, I added a screen grab from the conversation for context.

The conversation then evolved into Kanners and Donald Triplet being patient 1, and not presenting as profoundly autistic and therefore it isn't appropriation, with other PPs stating he also blamed autism on parenting and basically to take kanners with a pinch of salt though they're my words and not verbatim.

BlueSkiesAndSunshiiine · 15/04/2026 00:00

Can we have a diagnosis back for high functioning people, if lower have their own?

x2boys · 15/04/2026 00:48

BlueSkiesAndSunshiiine · 15/04/2026 00:00

Can we have a diagnosis back for high functioning people, if lower have their own?

Well we used to it was called Aspergers
But a lort of people were offended by it .

Youtookthebrightmoon · 15/04/2026 00:53

JustCabbaggeLooking · 14/04/2026 22:53

There's the rub.

I’m not sure what you mean exactly. It’s well known that some conditions like certain infections during pregnancy, extreme prematurely, taking certain drugs while pregnant etc are all associated with an increased risk of autism in the child.

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 15/04/2026 00:53

Polishmamaa · 14/04/2026 23:07

@ProjectHailMary please can you share all your sources for these scientific and medical facts? We all need to educate our doctors and health professionals who have misdiagnosed so many of our children.

She didn't say they were misdiagnosed. Under diagnosed. The autism diagnosis was given and further investigation did not happen. Autism in itself does not cause the extreme level of disabilities of some of the children described in this thread.

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 15/04/2026 00:58

x2boys · 15/04/2026 00:48

Well we used to it was called Aspergers
But a lort of people were offended by it .

Not all "high functioning" autistic people have the formerly named Aspergers. My cousin has Aspergers, I am autistic. Additionally my niece had global developmental delay, now classed as severe cognitive impairment. She has many autistic traits but was never diagnosed as autistic.

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 15/04/2026 01:01

Elbone · 14/04/2026 23:26

@Jimmyneutronsforehead

Note where that poster said “maybe they aren’t autistic” about profoundly autistic children/ adults…

You mean the poster that multiple non-autistic people told she wasn't autistic enough if she could type to communicate?

Polishmamaa · 15/04/2026 01:27

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 15/04/2026 00:53

She didn't say they were misdiagnosed. Under diagnosed. The autism diagnosis was given and further investigation did not happen. Autism in itself does not cause the extreme level of disabilities of some of the children described in this thread.

Misdiagnosis encompasses various scenarios including failure to diagnose a condition, incorrect identification of the condition, or significant delays in reaching the correct diagnosis so the term was still correct. Where are the sources of these scientific facts?

Elbone · 15/04/2026 06:25

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 15/04/2026 01:01

You mean the poster that multiple non-autistic people told she wasn't autistic enough if she could type to communicate?

I didn’t see her being told she wasn’t “autistic enough”. I certainly didn’t say anything like that.

I did see her being told that her autism was on a completely different planet to OP’s child and their needs are wildly different as a way to explain why the diagnosis should be split.

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