Would you leave toddler for a couple of days under these circumstances?

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My ds is 14 months. He's always been breastfed and bfs to sleep, wakes multiple times a night still (bedsharing) and latches on to get back to sleep. It's taking it's toll on me and I'm ready to stop, but he currently has all of his back teeth coming in, so I'll give it a few weeks so I can comfort him at night through that, then I plan to stop in roughly 3-4 weeks. I've never left him for a night, or at all generally bar a couple of hours here and there.
I plan to quit cold turkey, same way I did with my dd - cabbage leaves to dry my milk up and just call it quits. Dad will take over bed times for the first week as he's used to falling asleep on the boob.

I'd like to take a trip for a couple of nights beginning of June. This only really gives a few weeks after stopping before going. Is that too soon?

Iabu - too soon, delay the trip
Ianbu - it's fine, go on the trip.

To add, ds will be with dp so will be fine generally, but I'm worried he'll miss me especially at night.

Great work getting this far. Emma Pickett ibclc has written about weaning. And LalecheLeague can support you aswell.
I couldn’t go cold turkey it would be too hard on me and my sons. You risk getting mastitis yourself. Everything gently phased out eventually for me. I found age 12-18m rough with all three of my boys though. Especially when I went back to work. Breastfeeding helped me get everybody back to sleep quickly though. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
www.emmapickettbreastfeedingsupport.com/blog/weaning-toddler-bob-and-pre-schooler-billie-how-do-you-stop-breastfeeding-an-older-child

llli.org/breastfeeding-info/weaning-how-to/

Personally that seems too much to go cold turkey and then go away. Ive been gradually reducing down since about 14 months, now at 18 months I do bedtime and maybe once in the early hours. Havent had a night away yet but DH often does bedtime. Is there a reason you can’t do it gradually, as I do think that’s better for your breast health? And I found it much easier to say no at night once I’d cut day feeds as she was used to me saying no in the day. The risk is that weaning is a struggle, then you have the trip and it makes things worse. Seems high risk for mastitis to?

If it was just the one feed at bedtime and once in the night, I'd happily continue. I didn't plan to stop until 18mo.. the problem is he's so demanding with it. He pulls at my clothes and won't take no for an answer. It's wearing on me now and I don't really know any other way of handling it other than to dry my milk up so it's simply not available anymore. I didn't get mastitis with my dd so hopeful it wouldn't happen again but am worried that if I go cold turkey we'll have bigger troubles when it comes to sleep.

@Peonies12 sorry I forgot to quote you

Yes, but if you are not in the building, he literally cannot do that. He can't demand something that isn't available, and I have read threads on here before where people have said that the best way to cut that one last feed at night is to be physically absent. If they know you're in the house they will carry on and on ad infinitum. If you're not there, they have to accept that they can't have it.

I think you need to do this.

Yanbu about having a few nights away but I'm not sure about cold turkey quitting. Think that's a bit harsh. Have you tried cutting down? I night weaned mine by reducing the feeds a minute or 2 every night.

If he pulls your clothes then say no and get up/ remove him for a minute

It's not just the night feed he demands, it's anytime we're home and all through the night too.

Why don’t you have a long weekend when you don’t see him in the daytimes only at night to help your supply, then it’s a firm no in the daytime

I think it's a lot to do with teething atm, he's got them all coming through at once bless him, so I'll wait until it passes and rethink as his behaviour may change once they're through properly. It's just overwhelming atm.