AIBU to think my friend Sarah (name change) is quite naive?
we saw each other a few months ago. I updated that another friend Ann (name change) had moved to my area. She was newly married and bought a house following the breakdown of her longterm relationship and father of her two children who are now 17 and 14.
Sarah said she remembered from my wedding 12 yrs ago that Ann was dealing with all of the child care and dealing with nappies as her partner did not do nappies. She said How could she be with someone like that?
for context Ann had left her partner due to domestic abuse and coercive control. Sarah does not know this but it’s personal and not my place to say. I would not talk about this when trusted with personal information. she did not meet the partner until her early 30s But I do know he love bombed her and things moved very quickly. She was pregnant within a year.
for context Sarah has been with her husband since University. The one serious boyfriend she has had. Lived together and then married. I think they have had fairly equal professional careers and equal earnings. It’s great of you get a
partner that believes in 50/50 parenting and household chores etc. but also life is not perfect and sometimes even when you realise the person is not who you thought it’s a careful balance of doing what you think is right for yourself and your family.