I feel so hurt by this that I just need to vent. I have a 6 yr old autistic child who has had a tough few weeks sickness wise. This has led to massive meltdowns and poor sleeping that I was already just about managing with my DH. There is a behaviour specialist coming out on Monday as my child has started to pull out her hair to the point of being almost bald on her scalp. This has been very upsetting. Anyway I mentioned to my MIL about the visit and she was just so awful about it. Told me I needed to clean the toy room and that they will be watching everything. I said no they are there to support me not look at the cleanliness of the house. At that point she said she managed to keep a clean house with four children and I said you had your mother living with you. That didn’t go down well and she said it’s obvious we won’t agree so let’s close the subject. My DH thinks she over stepped and would say a word but I am raging. Our lives are tough enough with full time jobs and a child with special needs. I honestly don’t want to see her again. She has OCD with cleaning but this was so mean when we are already struggling.