To feel so guilty about having a lazy day?

[Fancycrab]

I’m a single mum and life is generally pretty busy. My kids spend every Saturday with their dad and I spend the entire day at home lazing about in loungewear watching tv, maybe having a bath, no matter the weather. It’s my favourite thing to do but I feel SO guilty and lazy about it that it’s starting to ruin my enjoyment of it. I have tons of life admin that needs doing that I don’t have time in the week to do that I really should be doing on Saturday but I always give in to the pull of the sofa! I also feel guilty about declining invites to see friends cos I really do just love being lazy by myself! I don’t get any time to lounge about during the week without kids, so this is a proper rest day but I feel like I’m taking the piss a bit spending a whole day every week like this and I’m not getting the things I need to do done/missing out on more exciting activities with friends etc.

YANBU - you deserve a rest day, people should do what makes them happy (if so, how do I feel less guilty about it?)
YABU - get off your lazy ass and sort your life out!

If you’re feeling guilty when relaxing, you’re not enjoying it. Can you write a list of what needs to be done, by when, and set aside the first hour or two of your rest day to clear that item? Then the rest of your time is all yours? or take one Saturday a month to crack on then enjoy the others?

Can you maybe set aside time for your life admin, say get it all done in the morning by midday. And then relax in the afternoon?

Sounds nice! Enjoy it don't shame having time off.

Exactly. Think of it as finding a way to properly enjoy lazing around, rather than lazing around and fretting about things that need doing.

Self care is very important
Enjoy the break

As a fellow single mum myself I usually get the admin and housework and jobs out the way in the morning, and then a flop in the afternoon. So no feeling that I have anything hanging over me and I can enjoy the indulgence

The only reason I think your being unreasonable is for thinking your unreasonable. My daughter goes to her dads every other day for 2 hours and then at the weekends 3-4 hours per day.. I literally do a few jobs each time but mostly visit my sister and chill out there or I go home and chill out I mean it’s been easier to do now I’m
pregnant with our second child but I do it and don’t feel guilty I do all our jobs as we go and when she’s in bed.

Nothing wrong with having a lazy day and enjoying the rest and the peace and quiet! But if you're feeling guilty then doesn't that defeat the object? Maybe you could spend a couple of hours in the morning to get a few things done or have a walk & coffee with a friend and then give yourself the afternoon and evening to veg out, feeling like you've earned it!

Can you not do ‘life admin’ while on the sofa watching tv? Other than that, do what you want OP, nobody else cares if you have a lazy day or an active day, the kids just want you happy and healthy and if a lazy day does that then great.

Guilt is a wasted emotion. Just relax.

Oh fuck that op! Relax and enjoy it! I have done the same today as dd was out and dp took ds out. I did do a load of washing and washed my hair but then I sat on my arse and watched a Netflix doc. 0 guilt. Feel refreshed and ready for them all to return!