Staying overnight with 9 month old baby

[PockerMaus]

Interested to see how other parents felt around this age... We have a 9m old who now sleeps relatively well (thank god! But only for the last month or so).

My partner and I have a month off together so we're spending it catching up with friends/family. Every time he makes the arrangements he says we should stay overnight so we can have dinner and then spend more time with people. I really hate the thought of staying overnight with our baby. We have to bring loads of stuff with us and also likely to have to share a room (not the fault of our hosts obvs!) but means we'll probably wake up our son when we go to bed/during the night as my partner snores terribly. Our son sleeps pretty well (most of the time through the night, but when he does wake up it takes a long time to get him back to sleep).

I really CBA with staying at other people's houses but I feel rude always saying no. I'm currently 10 weeks pregnant so for me, it's not like I can relax and have a drink anyway so I don't mind being the driver.

Just wondering if you would stay at others overnight with a baby? Or is it reasonable to say no for now.

Even without a baby I wouldn't want to stay overnight at other peoples houses. I like my own bed. Do family and friends live really far away?

It depends on the set up. If friends had a travel cot it was no problem. We don’t drive so never fell into the trap of taking loads of stuff everywhere. DS is 3 now and I still prefer staying over rather than leaving early or faffing with babysitters.

It depends on how far you're travelling, more than about 3 hours and I'd probably want to stay over.

Oh only about an hour or so away! Same, plus I often have to go in the spare room to get away from my partner's snoring lol so I like to have somewhere to retreat to.

Maximum of an hour! Tbh if we were travelling more than 3 hours to somewhere I would probably book us an air BnB or something :)

No I wouldn’t stay over either, would much prefer to get home.

Oh if it's just an hour, I'd definitely want to come home and sleep in my own bed!

No way would I stay over for a journey of one hour. It is causing a lot of extra work and faff for your friends too! Additional meals, additional cleaning to get the room ready, potentially crying baby during the night, all the sheets and towels.

Ah I guess if we didn't drive it would be different! & Yes I guess if a cot etc was already set up it might be easier. It's still a bit of a faff because our son likes to have his white noise machine etc and we'd need to set up the baby monitor but not the end of the world obv :)

If you're going to be the driver, will you be putting the baby to bed at your friends so you can stay into the evening then popping them into the car (asleep) when you head home?

Maybe your DH thinks you'll be wanting to drive home at 7pm every time you see friends to get the baby to bed?

Hmm tbh it would be more effort putting him to sleep (with bringing and setting up all his bed stuff) and then trying to get him in the car without waking him up - luckily our routine is quite flexible so he goes to bed around 8pm/half past but could be pushed a bit later without getting too cranky! I'd normally say to my partner we could stay until around then/9ish or until he gets cranky which I reckon is late enough! :)